This post is going to address the specific entertainment culture of the '70s by allowing my memories (& amateur commentary) regarding television to narrate therein.
Some veteran Jackson Mississippi Samson guys' musings, recommended resources, and Samson Society news / updates (all written by 100% Grade A - Human Intelligence)
Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:
Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.
Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.
Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.
Wednesday at 7:00 PM, Crossgates Baptist Church. Brandon Reach out to Matthew Lehman at (601)-214-4077 for further info.
Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 601-201-5608 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.
Tuesday, September 17, 2024
That First Foray Into The Notion Of The Supernatural
Thursday, September 5, 2024
Most Of My Hair Is Silver Now
The house I grew up in in Madison, back in the '80s, was a typical ranch house. After my parents had a small addition constructed (FL / sunroom), it amounted to +/-1,800 sf. A quirk of this house was that the garage flooded (even with the garage door closed) during a deluge. I remember having to "sweep out the garage" immediately following these rainstorms. There was always either a push or corn broom on hand for this task. But even then, the concrete garage floor would remain saturated / puddled, thereby making traversing throughout a slippery affair. And if it was mild weather, this dampness would remain for days.
When my parents sold this house (1990 - my freshman year at MSU) in order to move into a rental ('till their newly constructed home was finished), I wonder if they disclosed this quirk. For they never made any effort to remedy it. It was just one of those nuisances that we lived with throughout our time there.
Today, when you attempt to sell a home, disclosures are expected. For every house has its quirks. I remember populating my mother-in-law's disclosure statement for the home she sold a few years back. It was multiple pages of Q & A with sizable legal warnings throughout threatening legal action if the document wasn't ENTIRELY FORTHCOMING.
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My oldest friend's wife is morbidly obese. She's always been overweight, but over the past 3-4 years, she's gained more and more pounds. Now it's to the point (for those of us who've known her for decades) of the inevitable shock (especially considering their Xmas photo card).
She's also a heavy, heavy social media user (political commentary).
Saturday, December 2, 2023
Once More, A Boiled Toad
Being same-sex attracted has always been my sexual norm. I've never known anything different. When I began dating my future wife (mid-'90s), I was far more attracted to her holistically than likely other potential suitors might have been. And this springboarded off of our childhood friendship which became far more important than either of us realized 'till we began dating. Angie was tender. Her touch was soft and consistent. Plus, she was loyal to a fault. I could go on, but my point here is I had the benefit of being able to easily look beyond the sole opportunity to lay with her (intercourse), as her husband, in regard to potentially marrying.
Another norm for me is the Deep South culture. A big portion of which basks in college football competition / rivalries. This one too is experienced by Rob in ways that don't necessarily fit the typical Mississippi redneck.
It's important to know that Mississippi is all I know relative to a home. As such, it's a hotbed of football-loving and has been for as long as I've known it. My dad, Robert, Sr., grew up immersed in this Southeastern Conference culture. As such, it's as definitive as the very blood type that circulates through his veins.
I joined the marching band (clarinet / drum major) in middle school out of curiosity (& as an escape route from PE class) more than anything else. As such, Friday nights during each of my subsequent fall semesters were mostly spent back on the private academy's grounds - at each and every football game.
From there, I segued into my college's marching band where again, I spent every fall weekend (along with three bowl games!) supporting the team, but this time, I was wearing a maroon & white band uniform. At the conclusion of 1994, my tenure as a Maroon Band member bittersweetly came to a close.
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Tuesday, October 3, 2023
What Does It Mean To "Do The Work"?
I can only speak for myself as a Samson guy whilst answering this question.
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
Attempting To Put the Kibosh On POTENTIAL Sexual Tension Within Silas Relationships (Addressing That New Script Verbiage)
Within the last (30) days, the Samson Society meeting script (available online to virtual meeting facilitators) has been updated to include some pointed language (within the part that speaks to obtaining a Silas).
The initial iteration of that inclusion read something like this:
"The Samson Society is a place to practice nonsexual intimacy. In order to promote the emotional growth of our members and protect spiritual health of our community, sexual communication or connection between members is prohibited. Misconduct is addressed according to Matthew 18."
There are men who are on the hunt for relationships with other men that exist within sexual tension. Specifically, they're looking for guys who they're sexually attracted to and vice versa, thereby generating the potential for segueing the initially platonic relationship into the sexual realm.
When you're engaging with others online (outside of Samson Society), and this is your modus operandi, it's likely going to carry over, by default, whilst transitioning into our community. That is, unless it's made clear up front that this MO isn't welcome.
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Saturday, August 13, 2022
My Friend's Nasty Refrigerator / Refusing To Take Emotional Responsibility / Emotionally Engage
I'm convinced that emotions are scary to Mississippians. At least white Mississippians. Black Mississippians not so much. As such, it creates quite the disconnect between the two races; for you have one that's marinating in emotional energy and the other who sees no use for / can't comprehend / would rather ignore it.
Saturday, June 4, 2022
My Need To Be Seen / Pursued By Men I Respect (& How Porn Defaults To Fulfill That Need)
All of my issues with gay porn - for the most part - have a common denominator of attempting to fill a void of feeling isolated from the universal community of men.
Wednesday, May 25, 2022
Recommended Reading - How The Internet Ate A Young Man Alive
Josh Duggar Sentenced to 12.5 Years in Prison for Child Pornography (insider.com)
Thursday, April 21, 2022
Us Versus Them - Riding The Superiority Highhorse
The saddest character flaw I've personally witnessed is certain guy's penchant for gloating. For it will serve to isolate him throughout the years of his life.
Monday, April 11, 2022
"What If...?" (Mirror Universe)
My first pastor friend was our Assistant Pastor at Lakeside Presbyterian Church. He'd initially served as our church's Youth Pastor, but by the time Angie & I began visiting (with our then two little sinners) Lakeside Pres (around 2009), he'd been promoted. Brandon was / is 3-5 years older than I am, and overall is one of the most handsome Presbyterian pastors I've had the privilege to meet. Were he not a member of the clergy, he'd likely be highly successful either in the public or private sector.
Thursday, January 13, 2022
The Bible Belt Samson Guy. Rob's Update On His Virtual Samson Society Meeting Experience.
I've been attending the "Make Thursdays Great Again" (7 PM CST) virtual Samson Society group for close to two months now, and I feel guilty about it.
Thursday, January 6, 2022
Bad / Poor Mouthing
Bad / poor mouthing is the practice of tearing others down behind their backs. It's usually executed amongst a triangulated peer group - friends, family, co-workers, and it's done because we all feel - at times - entitled to do so.
Monday, January 3, 2022
"Bitterness" - Mr. Matt Flint
I have been in recovery from a lifelong addiction to porn for almost seven years now. I often tell men that are new to Samson that recovery for me has been like getting a master’s degree in Matt Flint. When I first walked into a meeting, there was a certain degree of trepidation, but I was a desperate man seeking a way out of the darkness I had lived in for so long. By God’s grace, I found a community of men and slowly began the process of learning who I am and why I struggle with addiction.
In the recovery
community, we like to throw around fancy terms such as “presenting behavior” or
“trauma” or “medicating” to help us paint the picture of our lives and better
understand what drives us to want to act out in compulsive ways. As I have sought to break the chains of
addition, it has been so helpful to really get to know myself. Ultimately the desire to escape into fantasy is
a way of numbing the pains of life that we don’t want to face head on. Knowing why we do this and what triggers us is
a crucial early step in the recovery process.
Numbing or medicating pain away is contrary to the Gospel; where Jesus
invites us into the midst of our pain and promises that He will be there with
us. Think of the story of the Samaritan
woman caught in adultery in John 4. Jesus met her where she was, in the middle
of her misery and offered her living water. See also Deuteronomy 31:6,8; Joshua 1:5; and 1
Chronicles 28:20 where God promises to never leave nor forsake us.
We talk a lot about things that we have suffered, different
traumatic experiences we have endured, what secrets our formative years hold
over us that keep pushing this urge to numb pain. These are all things that have been done to
us and we do well to bring them to light and deal with them accordingly. There is another aspect to getting traction
in recovery that I know I have overlooked for a long time. Bitterness and anger. Anger is towards the top of my list of
triggers and there have been quite a few times where it has reared its head in destructive
ways, both around my family and in the dark corner of isolation. The question I have been asking myself is:
What role does bitterness play? I would
guess probably more than I would like to admit.
Hebrews 12:15 describes bitterness as a root that springs up and causes
trouble. Job speaks about “the bitterness of soul” in
chapters 7 and 10. Proverbs 14:10 says
the heart knows its own bitterness… The point I am driving at is that if
bitterness is held inside and not dealt with it can wreak havoc in our lives
both physically and spiritually.
So that leaves us with the next question: How do I deal with bitterness? The answer is simple on the surface, but
easier said than done.
Forgiveness. As Christians we
understand forgiveness to be one of the foundational teachings of our
faith. Christ shed his blood for the
forgiveness of our sins, Matthew 26:28.
As we begin 2022 seeking to be
better husbands, fathers, friends, and followers; I think we should be
searching our hearts for areas where we are harboring bitterness and allow the
Spirit of God to lead us into true forgiveness.
Forgiveness of others who, for a lot of men, have committed grievous
wrongs against us, but do not stop there.
As men in recovery from addiction, we need also to forgive ourselves and
feel the weight of the forgiveness paid for us by Christ our savior. If bitterness and anger are the substances
by which our hearts are hardened, forgiveness is the balm that softens and
restores. Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your
heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the springs of life.” A gate keeper
doesn’t only keep out those that want to do the city harm, he also lets in
those who mean well and bring life.
Now, take a moment to
ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where you are holding on to bitterness; then
allow forgiveness to come in. Much like
recovery, forgiveness is a journey that takes time and perseverance. If the person you need to offer forgiveness
to the most is yourself, remember the words from step seven of The Path that
ring so true: “Despite the lingering effects of sin, I am a restored son of the
Sovereign Lord, whose spirit is at work in my weakness, displaying His glory
and advancing His Kingdom.”