Over the past ten years, I've attended at least one Samson Society meeting a week. August 2014 at First Baptist Church Jackson (Summit Counseling suite) was when that first meeting (involving Rob) occurred. I had met with Mr. Don Waller (facilitator of said meeting) on one occasion, and from there, he ushered me into his group (which at the time was the only Samson Society meeting in Mississippi, as far as we knew).
Some veteran Jackson Mississippi Samson guys' musings, recommended resources, and Samson Society news / updates (all written by 100% Grade A - Human Intelligence)
Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:
Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.
Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.
Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.
Wednesday at 7:00 PM, Crossgates Baptist Church. Brandon Reach out to Matthew Lehman at (601)-214-4077 for further info.
Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 601-201-5608 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.
Saturday, August 17, 2024
It's Been Ten Years Since I First Stepped Foot Into A Samson Society Meeting!
Saturday, May 25, 2024
Intimacy With Men Lives On Via Memory & Technology
Sledge's birthday is 2024's Memorial Day. Leading up to his birthday, each year, I re-listen to his audio journals & re-read his personal analytical work that he so fearlessly sent my way back in 2018. Sledge was 28 at the time, and I was 45. We'd met due to his willingness to step into the Samson Society meeting I facilitated at Lakeside Pres. At the time, lust was a sizable part of his life, and he'd found himself convicted therein whilst hearing a mutual friend of ours share his testimony (prior to referring his audience to Samson Society).
Thursday, April 25, 2024
Resist Being Relationally Territorial Within Samson Society. Remember, You're Only "Brothers" In Concept Alone. Nonetheless, Never Stop Considering The Relational "What If?"
Being an only child helps me in this regard. I've no siblings to mar my relational outlook.
Wednesday, April 10, 2024
A Hard Funeral(s) To Sit Through
Out of respect for my father, I attended a funeral (unrelated to family) today. This wasn't the first time I'd done this. When I was in high school, I attended a funeral with him. I remember it clearly, for the deceased had killed himself via suicide, leaving behind a boy who was only one or two years older than I (the boy went to my high school and the divorced dad had attended church with us).
That was my first hard funeral due to the tragedy tied to the cause of death.
Wednesday, March 13, 2024
What Is A Silas?
Here is what our experience tells us: You can get sober from anything going to meetings, but you can’t stay sober just going to meetings. That’s why, in the end, it isn’t even about the meetings. The meetings are a portal into the brotherhood. Samson really lives BETWEEN the meetings in relationships, conversations, friendships. Christianity, properly understood, is a team sport, not an individual event. We’ve been failing because we’ve been playing the wrong game! If we play 1-on-1 against a superior opponent, we will fail.
The lead person on your team we call a Silas. He is the one you are in regular communication with. There is an element of accountability, but it is not focused on sin management. If I just focus on the behavior, I run the risk of mastering that specific behavior and becoming a self-righteous Pharisee. Instead, I give another person (my Silas) real-time access to my whole life. What I’m feeling, thinking, doing, and thinking of doing.My Silas is not an expert. He is a guy on the same road walking the same direction. But when it comes to my life, he has an advantage over me – he’s not in it! That gives him a perspective on my life that I don’t have. There are whole parts of my life that I can’t see because I’m inside it. Like trying to read the label from inside the bottle.
Here are some of the things my Silas does:
- He gets to know my story.
- He remembers the things I tend to forget.
- He asks the questions I tend to avoid.
- He notices patterns I don’t see.
- He reminds me who I really am.
You are not imposing on him. He gets as much out of the relationship as you do. He needs you to call him. Everyone needs a few moments each day to get out of their own head and focus on another person.
Tuesday, March 12, 2024
Hi Mate! (Reciprocal Mover & Shaker)
Sledge was his Internet pseudonym. It didn't take but just a few days before he divulged his real name, Scott, to me. Scott was a mover & shaker. Brilliant, creative, funny and full of hope and joy. And what made our friendship truly unique was his nationality. Scott was Australian, having lived in Brisbane all of his life.
Wednesday, January 31, 2024
Wield Your Positive Influence Here Within Samson Society
One of the most substantial outcomes relative to teenage Rob wielding his (positive) influence happened during an (snow day) ice storm. The year was likely somewhere around early 1988. The Christmas prior, I'd been gifted a Yamaha keyboard (though I actually didn't play keyboard with any semblance of true ability).
My best friend, Greg, on the other hand, did play keyboard with envious skill, and he'd just purchased his own Yamaha synthesizer (from Service Merchandise, no doubt) in response to having "test driven" my own.
Since I was always looking to spend time with Greg, and knowing that we both enjoyed our mutual friend, Todd's companionship (who just happened to own a Casio keyboard), our keyboard trio, Infinity, serendipitously came together.
And man, oh man, did we three enjoy our time together, composing and practicing, practicing, practicing before finally performing (school talent shows, etc.). And it all took root with the three of us sitting cross-legged on my small bedroom's cut-pile carpeted floor, laughing and carrying-on, as only us three nerdy Mississippi teens could do during a mid-January late '80s snow day.
Friday, December 29, 2023
Join Me In Recognizing / Celebrating "Jesus January" - Starting In Three Days!
We're going to focus within this post on monks (an applicable subject, don't you think?). Specifically, those who lived during the Middle Ages, long before Mr. Nate Larkin wrote his brilliant tome, Samson & The Pirate Monks. Yes, you read that correctly. Monks. Those men of the religious order who resided (past tense) within monasteries, wearing those heavy (usually brown), drab, floor-length robes whilst sporting those gosh awful haircuts.
Wednesday, December 27, 2023
Discovery / Narrative, Arousal = Architecture Of Sexuality VS. Longings / Triggers, Fetishes = Mobile Homes Of Lust
"I don't know much about art, but I know what I like." [This is horseshit.]
Architecture, by definition, wouldn't exist were it not for critics. Critics use their fine-tuned, scholarly adjudication skillset and from there, communicate to the masses what and why a building qualifies as architecture. And they do this as an outpouring of their zeal for standout, outstandingly designed buildings. Buildings which seemingly capture volumetric space in a masterful way (architect = master builder).
A worthwhile architectural critic, by definition, is exceedingly knowledgeable of their subject. It's this knowledge that allows their critique to carry so much weight.
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Guys who find themselves within Samson Society typically fall into the category of sexuality aficionados. I would argue many of these men entered into crisis (pre-Samson Society) of some sort due to their individual passion for sex colliding with their (in very simplified terms) longstanding / life-long isolated state (inability to find helpful knowledge / understanding therein).
Religion undoubtedly can play a role in this cataclysm (the majority of Samson guys are Christians). As such, I would argue that this then knowledge / understanding vacuum will occur alongside the false accusation that "No one else within the church is experiencing nor is as interested in sexuality as you are...FrEaK". [This too is horseshit.]
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Porn, phone sex, hook-up & circle jerk roulette sites all provide pitifully unreliable information regarding sex, yet it's devoured by these men. Why? Ease of private accessibility. Too, (if they choose to take this step) transactional sexual relations (strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitution) further their woefully biased / distorted thinking. Why? Ease of private accessibility.
And all of this internalization of such their favorite topic eventually manifests ruts within their minds. Call them fetishes or triggers. They're deep valleys within their grey matter equating to salacious comfort food of the ultra-processed Wal-Mart impulse-buy caliber.
Hence, it's cheap, deadly fare. Would you choose to dine out of a trash heap for each and every meal? It's important to remember that although this is the least healthy means to find caloric sustenance, it's still sustenance.
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There has to be a healthy way for men - who're like us - to gain needed knowledge regarding sexuality in line with their individual discovery / narrative leading towards arousal.
Now, what am I referring to when I say, "men like us"? Go back to what I wrote earlier within this post.
I'm referring to men who're passionate about sex and therefore deliberately ruminate on it. Within the same vein as guys who're similarly passionate about other topics of interest such as cars, hunting, video games and so forth.
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Friday, September 29, 2023
Communication (Within Samson Society) Is A Key To Success
Saturday, (10/7) is slated to be the day Mr. Nate Larkin hosts the second official "Samson Society Meeting Host Training" via Zoom. The first one occurred back in February of this year. Throughout all my years of involvement within Samson Society (since August 2014), there's been nada training for meeting hosts. Hence, this is a surprising, very exciting change that's immensely helpful to all of us involved.
Monday, September 4, 2023
Fool Me Once (Shame On You). Fool Me Twice (Shame On Me). Thrice Me Fool (Shame On Shame).
A lot can happen in two decades. Gray hair overtakes dark brown. Roofs get replaced. As do automobiles. Minute details related to times past fade into the background, yet the memory of deep-seated hurts remain.
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I have to admit that when it comes to intelligence coupled with curiosity, I'm a sucker for admiration. That described my Secretary - Treasurer to a tee. Plus, back then, he was really physically healthy. Now, keep in mind that I'm describing someone from twenty years ago. In essence, for a 40-year-old Mississippi man, he had it going on. I specifically remember complimenting him regarding his physique and him mentioning creatine as his secret weapon.
I had no idea what creatine was.
I do recall him saying that he and "a friend" regularly strength trained in his friend's garage. No doubt this was a fastidious regimen.
All in all, he didn't look anything like your typical 40-year-old Mississippi man in 2002, making him that much more intriguing / captivating / intimidating to me. I felt fortunate, from the outset, to have the opportunity to work with such a unique dude.
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I believe it was during our third year of serving together on the HOA board that I inadvertently caught him (Secretary - Treasurer) embezzling monies from the homeowners' association checking account. In essence, he was using the debit card attached to the checking account to put gas in his cars.
At this point within our relationship, things were very tense, and communication, in particular, was practically nonexistent between he and my VP and me.
His financial situation didn't warrant this crime (which I chose not to report to law enforcement), yet he showed zero remorse whilst confronted. In fact, in lieu of offering any sort of an apology regarding his actions, he instead regaled me with nonsensical accusation after accusation, all of which ran the gamut from me myself, my wife (who been assisting with filing the HOA tax return), and anything else he could think of that had any inkling of connection to Rob.
Finally, after ten or so minutes of listening to him berate me, he finally relinquished the checkbook / checkcard as my VP and I stood frenchfryed within his breakfast room. (That truly was a Sunday afternoon I'll never forget!)
I ended up serving as Prez of the HOA board for another 4-5 years sans this man (or really anyone else) serving alongside. It was a tough road. Volunteer work like that (if it's done well) takes a toll on one's emotional health. I learned firsthand that it truly is a thankless job and that you're absolutely not better off managing it alone.
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Now, fast forward to today.
My former Secretary - Treasurer is now 60ish and I'm 51. I've not served formally on our 'hood's HOA board since 2010, though I do sort of hold a President Emeritus consulting role.
Unsurprisingly, my former Secretary - Treasurer no longer sports the creatine-enhanced muscular bod, though I must admit, he also doesn't look like the typical early-60s (grossly overweight) Mississippian. And (strangely to me), he now owns a dog. As far as I know, he's still married, and his (now adult) only child is likely still living at home (she's mentally handicapped).
How do I know this?
Over the past six months or so, starting out very sporadically, but now once or twice daily, this former volunteer colleague has been walking said dog religiously throughout our tight knit 'hood.
It's important to keep in mind that I haven't seen this man face-to-face (despite the fact that he & his fam continued to live one street over) in over 17 years.
As such, our cul-de-sac is one of nine stubby appendages that he ventures down. And regarding our abode, we've considerably more frontage than most everyone else therein, therefore his opportunity to steal a passing glance is - due to sight lines - unimpeded.
During the first few times we encountered each other (as he briskly strolled by), I didn't even recognize him.
But then he politely said my name during one of his walk-bys.
"Hello, Rob."
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In summary, I'm trying to stay focused on the good that came from knowing / volunteering alongside this man - versus the hurt - whilst remembering that I too am not the same man I once was.
At the same time, I'm leery. For I never imagined he would have the gumption to show his face again, all these years later, much less make a regular routine of walking by my house.
It's as if he simply cannot get enough of me. But why? I'm the one he heaped all that blame on before. Couldn't he simply choose to not traverse down our cul-de-sac?
This is truly the weirdest blasts from the past I've ever encountered.
Here's to our respectful future...what might it hold? I'm very thankful to have this opportunity to reset at this very different stage of life.
What is God calling me to do now relative to this past relationship, particularly from the standpoint of who I was back then versus who I am today? I've been shaped (re?) by so many circumstances / relational forces (Samson Society, etc.) throughout our time apart. My outlook therein is dramatically different as a result.
Perhaps his too has experienced similar upgrading. Will I ever be privy to knowing or will he simply be a regularly scheduled program (he and his pooch) as he traverses his daily route through our 'hood?
Tuesday, August 29, 2023
Being Inspired By That "Normal" Samson Guy
I've been thinking back on my tenure as a Samson guy.
The second local Samson Society meeting I regularly (2017) attended was consistently graced by the presence of a man who simply didn't fall into the assumed / typical "Samson Society guy" categories. This man didn't struggle with sexual sin or alcohol / recreational drugs. His marriage was flourishing, and he had a steady income via a longstanding career. And this had been the case throughout his life.
The reason he was so loyal to the group was how impressed he was relative to the authenticity of the men involved.
This man was middle-aged (at the time), and overall, his demeanor was quiet / reserved. I recall he was a burly guy, clean-shaven, and moreso blue versus white-collar (he was likely not a college graduate).
Tuesday, June 27, 2023
It's Always A Good Time To Add A Covenant Eyes Ally