A month or so ago, my co-facilitator of the virtual Samson Society meeting, "Brain Changers", asked that I exclusively take the reins. It was during early '23 that I began attending that virtual meeting regularly. Within six months or so, I'd been dubbed a "co-facilitator", much to my humbled delight. For I found the contrast / volleying between myself and my (now former) co-facilitator to truly set "Brain Changers" apart.
Some veteran Jackson Mississippi Samson guys' musings, recommended resources, and Samson Society news / updates (all written by 100% Grade A - Human Intelligence)
Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:
Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.
Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.
Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.
Wednesday at 7:00 PM, Crossgates Baptist Church. Brandon Reach out to Matthew Lehman at (601)-214-4077 for further info.
Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 601-201-5608 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.
Thursday, June 13, 2024
Facilitating A Weekly Virtual Meeting Versus An In-Person Meeting
Sunday, June 2, 2024
Nate Larkin LIVE! Update
Per a Gracepoint Church member:
Hey Brothers, thanks so much to all who prayed about the event that I posted about a week or so ago. It happened today. Nate Larkin spoke at both of our worship services, and both services were amazing, with great responses and feedback from many people. We had several folks visit to hear Nate's message today. Also, we had about 15 men return at 1pm for a "sample" Samson meeting. The shares and participation were AMAZING! What a blessing from God on everything about today! Thanks for all who prayed and encouraged me to follow through on planning this event and taking this redemptive risk. Thanks especially to Nate Larkin for sharing such an incredible message of love, healing, and redemption through the power of community and brotherhood, straight out of his own life experiences and from the word of God. It was beautiful! Praise God for this blessing.
Tuesday, May 28, 2024
Nate Larkin LIVE!
Mr. Nate Larkin is scheduled to speak at Gracepoint Church in Savannah, TN at 8:30AM and 10:00 AM Central Time on June 2nd, 2024. He will also be facilitating a "sample" Samson meeting at 1:00pm Central Time at the same location. If you live close enough to attend, please know you are welcome and would be an honored guest for both joining us in worship and/or to attend the afternoon meeting. Having experienced Samson brothers participating alongside Nate would be such a blessing.
If you're unable to attend, please pray for Nate's endeavor to strategically spread the word regarding this parachurch men's ministry.
Saturday, May 25, 2024
Intimacy With Men Lives On Via Memory & Technology
Sledge's birthday is 2024's Memorial Day. Leading up to his birthday, each year, I re-listen to his audio journals & re-read his personal analytical work that he so fearlessly sent my way back in 2018. Sledge was 28 at the time, and I was 45. We'd met due to his willingness to step into the Samson Society meeting I facilitated at Lakeside Pres. At the time, lust was a sizable part of his life, and he'd found himself convicted therein whilst hearing a mutual friend of ours share his testimony (prior to referring his audience to Samson Society).
Wednesday, May 22, 2024
Compromises Made To Recovery Work Add Up Over Time / Place = Expected Behavior
My middle daughter and I were in AR last week and whilst there, we had dinner at a memorable Hot Springs sports bar. The restaurant was tucked in the corner of a strip shopping center adjacent to our hotel which made it too convenient to not pass up.
Thursday, April 25, 2024
Resist Being Relationally Territorial Within Samson Society. Remember, You're Only "Brothers" In Concept Alone. Nonetheless, Never Stop Considering The Relational "What If?"
Being an only child helps me in this regard. I've no siblings to mar my relational outlook.
Tuesday, April 23, 2024
Intentional Touch / Body Proximity, For Many Men, Is The Superior Way To Confirm Brotherly Love
Back in 2007-2008, I found myself withering on the vine via (authentic) platonic isolation (an ideal situation for Rob's uninhibited gay porn consumption or worse...). It hadn't been long (October '06) since I'd left my job in the private sector to work for the State of Mississippi. And I was honored to take that position, but it was nearly instantaneously obvious that I wouldn't be making close friends there. As such, I had no desire to look back towards my vocational peers from the past either.
Saturday, April 13, 2024
What Is A Silas?
Here is what our experience tells us: You can get sober from anything going to meetings, but you can’t stay sober just going to meetings. That’s why, in the end, it isn’t even about the meetings. The meetings are a portal into the brotherhood. Samson really lives BETWEEN the meetings in relationships, conversations, friendships. Christianity, properly understood, is a team sport, not an individual event. We’ve been failing because we’ve been playing the wrong game! If we play 1-on-1 against a superior opponent, we will fail.
The lead person on your team we call a Silas. He is the one you are in regular communication with. There is an element of accountability, but it is not focused on sin management. If I just focus on the behavior, I run the risk of mastering that specific behavior and becoming a self-righteous Pharisee. Instead, I give another person (my Silas) real-time access to my whole life. What I’m feeling, thinking, doing, and thinking of doing.My Silas is not an expert. He is a guy on the same road walking the same direction. But when it comes to my life, he has an advantage over me – he’s not in it! That gives him a perspective on my life that I don’t have. There are whole parts of my life that I can’t see because I’m inside it. Like trying to read the label from inside the bottle.
Here are some of the things my Silas does:
- He gets to know my story.
- He remembers the things I tend to forget.
- He asks the questions I tend to avoid.
- He notices patterns I don’t see.
- He reminds me who I really am.
You are not imposing on him. He gets as much out of the relationship as you do. He needs you to call him. Everyone needs a few moments each day to get out of their own head and focus on another person.
Saturday, April 6, 2024
Chipping Away At Your Ever-Present "Lust Noise"
These presently uber-popular prescription diabetes / weight loss pharmaceuticals (weekly injectables) claim to diminish the volume (think sound) of patient's "food noise" as they go about their day-to-day activities. Patients describe "food noise" as the Siren Song of eating. Hence, by reducing that noise, resisting compulsive food intake is made substantially easier.
Regarding the brain's willingness to do this, I'm convinced there must be motivation / motivators (positive or negative or some combination) therein. Otherwise, there's no true gain or win in doing so, and sans motivation / motivators (positive / negative), the mind won't be convinced.
Wednesday, March 13, 2024
What Is A Silas?
Here is what our experience tells us: You can get sober from anything going to meetings, but you can’t stay sober just going to meetings. That’s why, in the end, it isn’t even about the meetings. The meetings are a portal into the brotherhood. Samson really lives BETWEEN the meetings in relationships, conversations, friendships. Christianity, properly understood, is a team sport, not an individual event. We’ve been failing because we’ve been playing the wrong game! If we play 1-on-1 against a superior opponent, we will fail.
The lead person on your team we call a Silas. He is the one you are in regular communication with. There is an element of accountability, but it is not focused on sin management. If I just focus on the behavior, I run the risk of mastering that specific behavior and becoming a self-righteous Pharisee. Instead, I give another person (my Silas) real-time access to my whole life. What I’m feeling, thinking, doing, and thinking of doing.My Silas is not an expert. He is a guy on the same road walking the same direction. But when it comes to my life, he has an advantage over me – he’s not in it! That gives him a perspective on my life that I don’t have. There are whole parts of my life that I can’t see because I’m inside it. Like trying to read the label from inside the bottle.
Here are some of the things my Silas does:
- He gets to know my story.
- He remembers the things I tend to forget.
- He asks the questions I tend to avoid.
- He notices patterns I don’t see.
- He reminds me who I really am.
You are not imposing on him. He gets as much out of the relationship as you do. He needs you to call him. Everyone needs a few moments each day to get out of their own head and focus on another person.
Tuesday, March 12, 2024
Hi Mate! (Reciprocal Mover & Shaker)
Sledge was his Internet pseudonym. It didn't take but just a few days before he divulged his real name, Scott, to me. Scott was a mover & shaker. Brilliant, creative, funny and full of hope and joy. And what made our friendship truly unique was his nationality. Scott was Australian, having lived in Brisbane all of his life.
Tuesday, February 27, 2024
The Samson Society Multiverse
When I first stepped into a Samson Society meeting in August 2014, there was only one meeting (in-person) for me to attend, and that was the Wednesday at 6 PM CST meeting at First Baptist Church Jackson (Summit Counseling suite). That in-person meeting is still going strong. It introduced me to a men's ministry that's changed my life for the better.
But I didn't stay within that group. Eventually, I migrated to the Grace Crossing Samson Society group (Gluckstadt), attending there for +/-1 year.
Wednesday, January 31, 2024
Wield Your Positive Influence Here Within Samson Society
One of the most substantial outcomes relative to teenage Rob wielding his (positive) influence happened during an (snow day) ice storm. The year was likely somewhere around early 1988. The Christmas prior, I'd been gifted a Yamaha keyboard (though I actually didn't play keyboard with any semblance of true ability).
My best friend, Greg, on the other hand, did play keyboard with envious skill, and he'd just purchased his own Yamaha synthesizer (from Service Merchandise, no doubt) in response to having "test driven" my own.
Since I was always looking to spend time with Greg, and knowing that we both enjoyed our mutual friend, Todd's companionship (who just happened to own a Casio keyboard), our keyboard trio, Infinity, serendipitously came together.
And man, oh man, did we three enjoy our time together, composing and practicing, practicing, practicing before finally performing (school talent shows, etc.). And it all took root with the three of us sitting cross-legged on my small bedroom's cut-pile carpeted floor, laughing and carrying-on, as only us three nerdy Mississippi teens could do during a mid-January late '80s snow day.
Friday, December 29, 2023
Join Me In Recognizing / Celebrating "Jesus January" - Starting In Three Days!
We're going to focus within this post on monks (an applicable subject, don't you think?). Specifically, those who lived during the Middle Ages, long before Mr. Nate Larkin wrote his brilliant tome, Samson & The Pirate Monks. Yes, you read that correctly. Monks. Those men of the religious order who resided (past tense) within monasteries, wearing those heavy (usually brown), drab, floor-length robes whilst sporting those gosh awful haircuts.