Firstly, what is a relational wedge?
Some veteran Jackson Mississippi Samson guys' musings, recommended resources, and Samson Society news / updates (all written by 100% Grade A - Human Intelligence)
Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:
Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.
Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.
Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.
Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 769-567-6195 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.
Wednesday, June 4, 2025
Is A Loved One / Friend / Professional Colleague Attempting To Drive A Wedge Between You & A Third Relational Leg (Parent / Common Friend / Professional Colleague or Bossman)? Read On.
Sunday, June 1, 2025
The Recovery Junkie
It's a fact that there're certain men in Samson Society who're only present to appease a spouse / girlfriend, but too, in some of the most unusual (but perhaps not sooooo unusual) scenarios, they're men here as recovery junkies (& then, of course, there's everyone else). And it's important to know that any of these participation motivators may just imbue some form (if not an awful lot) of recovery within these men which is no doubt a very good thing. In other words, who cares what the motivator ultimately is?
I do.
Years ago, I posted regarding an influential Samson Society newcomer (therapist) who often made (announcing publicly) recovery men's groups analogous to church. Well, this ain't no church, but for those who force it into that distortion, I'm of the opinion they're too sort of a form of recovery junkie (keep in mind that recovery is medicine NOT booze).
Monday, April 7, 2025
Grace Crossing Samson Group Reunion
Last night, I once again made that half hour trek to Canton in anticipation of attending the Grace Crossing Samson Society meeting. I did so, having been prompted by Mr. Aaron Porter early last week, in light of his weeklong visit to "Samson Mississippi" (please note my previous post therein). Therefore, just a few minutes post arrival at this beautiful suburban church, The Man arrived, and from there, we made our way towards the rear of the church campus excitedly.
Tuesday, April 1, 2025
Aaron Porter To Visit Mississippi!
Monday, March 17, 2025
Especially Worthwhile Rewards / Henry's Red Phone
I'm reading Henry Bushkin's Johnny Carson (published in 2014). Henry details his role (essentially as Johnny's Silas / Jiminy Cricket) as Johnny's entertainment attorney for +/-15 years of his life / career. Johnny hired Henry within a period of interpersonal/ interprofessional vacuum (no one to trust) just as his second marriage was failing marvelously, and in spite of Henry's youth / inexperience, Johnny trusted him deeply from the outset (timing is everything).
Saturday, March 15, 2025
Advice To Samson Newcomers
I truly enjoy hosting a newcomers' meeting on Saturday mornings. To initially hear these men's stories and how they came to take their first steps into our community is such the privilege. As such, I feel so moved to offer them specifically some advice going forward.
Tuesday, March 11, 2025
Desperation To Be Seen
I often ask Samson brothers who're just beginning the recovery journey, "What is it that you're truly looking for whilst consuming pornographic content?"
Thursday, February 6, 2025
A Powerful Stream Of Piss
One way to ensure high pressure urination is to hold it in for a while. Another way is to acquiesce one's genitals into their "best" (most pleasurable) behavior (coitus). & I don't say that in jest. Everyone (ideally) hopes to show their lover a good time when the time comes (sorry). And by that very hopeful goal / definition, the resulting acidic release will no doubt be impressive.
In closing, remember where you once were, my Samson brother, when you first stepped foot into a meeting. As such, encourage newbies to pee, all the more, 'till they've fully relieved themselves. And this may take months, if not years, of being listened to. For their troubles didn't happen overnight, and it will take time for their permanent / new home to be planned / constructed.
Saturday, January 11, 2025
Curiosity Guardrails
As a 52-year-old, I have and continue to be a very curious person. And this curiosity primarily is seated towards men / boys / males. Whether it's interpersonal, business, church, if males are involved therein, I'm curious as to who these dudes are specifically / what motivates them to be involved / their backstory, etc. In other words, if I had been Steve Trevor, landing on Themyscira by accident, I would likely have quickly died from boredom. Why? To Rob, women, in particular, are incredibly boring / uninteresting handiworks of the Creator God. And no, that statement doesn't automatically make me a misogynist. For I love my wife and my daughters with my whole heart.
Wednesday, January 1, 2025
Ready To Listen? Ready To Be Heard? If So, Samson Society Might Just Be For You In 2025.
Mr. Nate Larkin has been hosting one of the (5-6 per week) "newcomer meetings" for quite a while now. These meetings serve as a clearinghouse for men who're interested in joining Samson Society (gaining access to virtual meetings / Slack, etc.), and it's assumed they've never attended an in-person Samson meeting (i.e. they're very green).
Wednesday, December 4, 2024
When Seduction / Sexual Conquest Fuel A Man's Masculinity Engine / "Boys Will Be Boys"
Perhaps you've heard the term "serial adulterer". Or perhaps "womanizer". Numerous high-profile entertainers (TV, film, music, sports) are labeled as such. And that makes sense. They're entertainers. Suave. Confident. And oftentimes, very, very professionally successful (or at least aspiring / appearing to be).
Have you ever thought of intercourse as calisthenics?
Friday, November 29, 2024
Captivated By Masculinity (+ Baritone Voices)
Tuesday, (11/26) my youngest daughter and I screened "Gladiator II" at our local cinema. Interestingly enough, "Gladiator I" was released in 2000 when I was 28 years old. Back then, I was absolutely captivated by masculinity. To the point that seeing a film that so celebrated it (as "Gladiator I" did) would have only sent me deeper into private despairing. For masculinity (as I perceived it) had enough gravitational pull to consistently hijack my thoughts, causing me to ruminate / obsess in such a way that could easily be described as cerebral / emotional bondage. As such, particular as a newlywed, I felt the only means of escape was to avoid entertainment firstly that celebrated it (as "Gladiator I" so successfully / ostentatiously did).
Friday, October 4, 2024
Combating Mundanity (Loosening The Grip Of The Private, Self-Destructive Novelty)
When I worked for the State of MS ('06-'12), there were two sides to our team. The opposing side (opposite the "employee team" I belonged to) were mostly smokers and all males. And though their ages were varied, these white men (who were usually only in the office - for the full day - on Mondays & Fridays) made a point to take a smoke break - at least twice a day - in order to break up the mundanity of the government job.
Monday, September 2, 2024
Recommended Reading / Rob's Cycle of Porn
The Cycle of Pornography | Evidence Unseen
My first encounter with porn (late elementary school) occurred at my uncle's apartment. I was around 4-5th grade, and it was my cousin (my uncle's son - an only child like me) who exposed me to his father's Penthouse magazines. Even then, it was the male models that I was drawn to the most. Nonetheless, I was so curious as to what sex / sensuality was. These soft-lensed, exquisitely photographed pictorials fueled my desire to learn more. I remember masturbating in the hall bathroom after my cousin and I had "had our fill". I loved the powerful arousal that occurred via these photos (tied to the clandestine investigation) which in turn made the climaxes that much moreso unbelievable.
Looking back, I had no idea what was truly going on due to being brought up in such a vacuum-of-sexual-information-household. Nonetheless, what I did know was I too (as a human being) was "wired for sex", therefore it felt imperative that I take these opportunities to learn / feel as much as possible in this regard.
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