Being an only child helps me in this regard. I've no siblings to mar my relational outlook.
What I mean by that is, (as a child) I always had to placate myself to the expectation that any and all friendships would be unpredictable / nonpermanent. This point of view allowed me to stay hopeful, putting more energy towards the "What If?" versus the "Please don't leave me!".
(For I desperately needed friends.)
How did I do this?
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My favorite rock band throughout my childhood was Heart. Had the two female band members not been sisters, I doubt the allure would have been nearly as strong. Through Ann and Nancy, I vicariously enjoyed having / observing a sibling(s).
What was so obvious to me about these two was the "order of operation" baked into the relationship. Now, for those of you who know Heart well, you're privy to the fact that Ann wasn't the oldest child within the family. There was an older sister still who just happened to not be a musician. But if you know anything about these two rock 'n roll superstars, there's a definitive hierarchy combined with a steadfast, implicit value anchorage.
In essence, Ann Wilson was the lead, and both sisters recognized the fact that they were far more valuable as a pairing than individually.
Both Ann and Nancy Wilson have recorded solo work. In fact, Ann did so firstly by agreeing to perform within a rock duet (movie soundtrack from the mid '80s). Eventually, Nancy did the same, though her efforts felt much more unsyncopated (in spite of the song's airplay) / unnecessary.
When both sisters partner as song composers, they credit a pseudonym, "Connie" within the liner notes. I've always like this. It implies the seamlessness between the two, both carrying equal weight. And that's cool.
In the not-too-distant past, Ann and Nancy Wilson had a public falling out. This resulted in both women rocking (recording / touring) separately for a season. Now they've made up and are once again together as if it never occurred.
Why?
Because they're family. As such, there's simply too much historical alikeness / sensibilities to not effectively keep them together.
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I'm leery of friendships within this community that feel contrived. I've been down that road with Samson brothers who're interested in befriending me, having received no indicators that I feel the same.
Taking risks for Rob = feeling masculine.
This is my / many men's secret sauce pertaining to acting on the "What if?".
Personally, I especially like strong intelligence, but the rarefied attraction between two potential brothers involves identifying and acknowledging (being sympathetic to) his zone. And doing so in a way that solidifies his trust in you / your trust in him. This acknowledging will undoubtedly take creativity and a whole lot of deliberateness.
His / your zone = Whatever keeps a man up at night
Maybe it's work or children or his / your health (recovery?). Whatever it is, if you / he can find a means to support him / you therein, doing so creatively and very intentionally, he's / you're demonstrating two things.
Firstly, your understanding of who you are / he is. Secondly, your / his willingness to do the work needed to be "brotherly" in that regard.
Ann Wilson loved music well before starting her band. Not long after, Nancy joined too, bringing her guitar-playing skillset, songwriting ability, but mostly, she brought her willingness to support sis within an endeavor / "zone" that was no doubt her first love.
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In closing, Heart's success as a rock band went into stratosphere during the MTV era of the 1980s. And much of that had to do with the production team they agreed to work with. A team that understood the era / cultural impact of music video production and how integral it was becoming to influence fandom (drive record sales / airplay).
Putting the dolled-up sisters on display, never too far from one another onscreen, did wonders to intrigue audiences (me). For not only did they look similar, but there was simply a sibling rapport that was unmistakable. Not to mention the fact that they were a lot easier on the eyes than Eddie & Alex or Chris & Rich.
Decades of time together, supporting / showing love whilst making entertaining music for all of us to enjoy = success all around.
Your close brotherly friendships within Samson Society should be just as celebrated. For they're no doubt similarly influential / entertaining to observe (despite the differences in last names).
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