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Tuesday, May 5, 2020
Samson Society's Opportunity In Crisis (A Message From Dr. Tom Moucka)
Sunday, May 3, 2020
Protecting Your Children From Their Mother's Boyfriend(s)
The original Samson Society website wasn't nearly as competitively designed (& aesthetically pleasing) as the current one, but within it were resources that are no longer available today. One of those was recorded testimony of obscure Samson men - on a number of recovery oriented topics. Mostly these talks focused on the low points / descent tied to their eventual transcendence out of chronic (sexual or otherwise) sin. From what little I remember, these recordings were executed at some of the pilot Samson Society retreats.
I remember vividly, one in particular, that focused on a Samson guy's story as it related to his willingness to bed women - no matter the cost / repercussions towards / to anyone else. His frankness relative to his callousness was actually quite jarring (even to me). Therefore, all and all, these testimonies didn't gloss over the warts of the individual, which certainly was is in the spirit of SS. Instead, most took their time and chronicled so much of their own stories coupled with their understanding of the inner workings tied to their stories as it related to their own circumstance. Talk about eye opening and absolutely delicious to hear! It was very rich stuff that you'll certainly never hear the likes of in Sunday School.
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Men want respect. As it pertains to women (being received from), this can easily be gifted to their romantic partner via satisfying sexual experiences (whether they're legitimate or theatrical). In turn, many "God fearing" men will continue to feed the relationship (even if), so long as they continue to receive said respect in bed. It's like a woman's magic elixir. This being the same erotic potion that keeps prostitutes in business.
Ladies who're adept at this wield monumental influence over their romantic partner (husband, boyfriend). And those women who're divorced mothers (who choose to fornicate) can and at times do use this influence to their self-serving favor (remember they're oftentimes looking for some semblance of security).
To return to those aforementioned Samson website tales, I remember one distinctly where a Samson guy was detailing his sexual pursuit of a divorced mother who had a couple of small children that she had sole custody of. What he made very clear within his tale was his disdain for those kids. And this was rooted in how they were the only thing that stood in between himself and their mother's vagina / breasts / ass. He went on to detail his varied attempts to create distance (both physical and relational) between the children and their mother, in order to improve his standing (priority) with her versus their biological (innate) own. As you can imagine, for her children, this made for a home life that was akin to living not just in the sewer but within the sub-basement of the local wastewater treatment plant. Fun stuff indeed, wouldn't you say?
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This Samson guy's story reminded me of spending time with my best friend in middle school. He and I would spend Friday nights together at his recently remarried (for the first or second time) mother's abode in rural Madison county. On one occasion, her new stud, I can recall vividly, made a distinct impression on me with his insults towards my lackadaisical rapport (we were all sitting around watching satellite TV in their living room). It was as if he was trying to say to me, "I already have two children to tolerate in this house that aren't my own...".
Those insults effectively removed any further interest in me overnighting with my friend, and obviously at the time, I had no truthful idea, as a 13 year old, why this new stud was being such a dick towards me. But, I can tell you this. It made a very effective impression that lingered for some time. And grown men can do this easily to children.
But now, today, I understand. He chose to be a dick because that's all that was important to him at the time.
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To wrap this up, they're plenty of Samson men who're in the thick of this juvenile posturing, as I've described above, even today. I know it because I've seen it with my own two eyes. And my goodness, I shudder to think what Judgement Day will look like for them. And oh, dear God, how I hurt for their girlfriends' children.
My hope, if you're reading this, is that you don't fall into this category and therefore cannot relate to this at all. Instead, my hope is that your marriage is intact, and that if you have children, you'll recognize the importance of thinking forward on their behalf relative to your potentially not being there to give a damn about them were you to not stay married to their mother.
Sometimes, when circumstances are truly horrific within an existing marriage (or on the opposing side of that equation - the grass looks incredibly green elsewhere), it's best to consider just how much more chaos can exponentially ensue, for all parties involved, were the initial institution to be dissolved.
If your marriage is on the brink, do your children a big favor and commit to Samson Society today. Perhaps it can serve as a resource to you (and indirectly your children) as you plumb the depths of your marriage looking for hope.
Lagniappe
I remember vividly, one in particular, that focused on a Samson guy's story as it related to his willingness to bed women - no matter the cost / repercussions towards / to anyone else. His frankness relative to his callousness was actually quite jarring (even to me). Therefore, all and all, these testimonies didn't gloss over the warts of the individual, which certainly was is in the spirit of SS. Instead, most took their time and chronicled so much of their own stories coupled with their understanding of the inner workings tied to their stories as it related to their own circumstance. Talk about eye opening and absolutely delicious to hear! It was very rich stuff that you'll certainly never hear the likes of in Sunday School.
-------------------------
Men want respect. As it pertains to women (being received from), this can easily be gifted to their romantic partner via satisfying sexual experiences (whether they're legitimate or theatrical). In turn, many "God fearing" men will continue to feed the relationship (even if), so long as they continue to receive said respect in bed. It's like a woman's magic elixir. This being the same erotic potion that keeps prostitutes in business.
Ladies who're adept at this wield monumental influence over their romantic partner (husband, boyfriend). And those women who're divorced mothers (who choose to fornicate) can and at times do use this influence to their self-serving favor (remember they're oftentimes looking for some semblance of security).
To return to those aforementioned Samson website tales, I remember one distinctly where a Samson guy was detailing his sexual pursuit of a divorced mother who had a couple of small children that she had sole custody of. What he made very clear within his tale was his disdain for those kids. And this was rooted in how they were the only thing that stood in between himself and their mother's vagina / breasts / ass. He went on to detail his varied attempts to create distance (both physical and relational) between the children and their mother, in order to improve his standing (priority) with her versus their biological (innate) own. As you can imagine, for her children, this made for a home life that was akin to living not just in the sewer but within the sub-basement of the local wastewater treatment plant. Fun stuff indeed, wouldn't you say?
-------------------------
This Samson guy's story reminded me of spending time with my best friend in middle school. He and I would spend Friday nights together at his recently remarried (for the first or second time) mother's abode in rural Madison county. On one occasion, her new stud, I can recall vividly, made a distinct impression on me with his insults towards my lackadaisical rapport (we were all sitting around watching satellite TV in their living room). It was as if he was trying to say to me, "I already have two children to tolerate in this house that aren't my own...".
Those insults effectively removed any further interest in me overnighting with my friend, and obviously at the time, I had no truthful idea, as a 13 year old, why this new stud was being such a dick towards me. But, I can tell you this. It made a very effective impression that lingered for some time. And grown men can do this easily to children.
But now, today, I understand. He chose to be a dick because that's all that was important to him at the time.
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To wrap this up, they're plenty of Samson men who're in the thick of this juvenile posturing, as I've described above, even today. I know it because I've seen it with my own two eyes. And my goodness, I shudder to think what Judgement Day will look like for them. And oh, dear God, how I hurt for their girlfriends' children.
My hope, if you're reading this, is that you don't fall into this category and therefore cannot relate to this at all. Instead, my hope is that your marriage is intact, and that if you have children, you'll recognize the importance of thinking forward on their behalf relative to your potentially not being there to give a damn about them were you to not stay married to their mother.
Sometimes, when circumstances are truly horrific within an existing marriage (or on the opposing side of that equation - the grass looks incredibly green elsewhere), it's best to consider just how much more chaos can exponentially ensue, for all parties involved, were the initial institution to be dissolved.
If your marriage is on the brink, do your children a big favor and commit to Samson Society today. Perhaps it can serve as a resource to you (and indirectly your children) as you plumb the depths of your marriage looking for hope.
Lagniappe
Friday, May 1, 2020
Wednesday, April 29, 2020
Tuesday, April 28, 2020
A Paranoid Man Is The Ultimate Loner (We Welcome Them Into Samson Society)
Paranoia is rooted in mistrust (enacted by a negative event), and mistrust is grounded in insecurity (one's temperament). Therefore, men who're paranoid, I believe, tend to have more of a feminine bent in regards to their internal wiring (internal security default versus respect default).
What does paranoia look like?
It's a man's constant belief that others are potentially undermining him and what he considers to be important. The keywords there are "what he considers to be important".
Paranoid men are laser focused on themselves and their ultimate satisfaction via a certain graded standard of performance (their own). Therefore, looking like a failure, stupid, unintelligent is quite difficult for these guys due to how it stirs up those internal feelings of insecurity (temperament). Often, these men will discount large swathes of opportunity relative to relationships, vocational challenge, voluntary positions, etc. all due to their determination to "not fail" (or be perceived as such) - even at the slightest level.
And this puts them in a position of being singular. Me, myself, and I. All alone. Because, in their mind, this is the safest position to be in. And from a rationale point of view, this is quite true.
Sadly, paranoid men who experience rejection by their wives (adultery), job loss (due to their own ineptitude), etc. feel torpedoed. And this is because their worst nightmare has now come true!
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So how to determine if a guy is paranoid?
It's not easy because they tend to hide it from the world. Paranoia is like cancer. It eats the man from the inside out, and he knows it. Hence, he attempts to hide it from everyone.
The best means of picking up on paranoia is to spend regular time with him. This can be as an employer, employee, friend, co-volunteer, even a neighbor (longstanding). But, if you're in a position of authority (either legit or implied) over him, he'll often feverishly hide this part of himself. Again, because it's like cancer. And no one wants to be identified with cancer (because it's a disease that weakens / disables / wastes).
But, there is one identifier that you can look out for, though I see it more as a McGuffin than anything else. And that's seemingly enjoying poor mouthing other men behind their backs. Men who do this are behaving like women - typically - and this points back to the beginning of this post.
That being said, a guy who's into regularly poor mouthing everyone around him isn't necessarily paranoid, but he may be.
I know. It's confusing.
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So, what redeeming qualities are there within these men? Are there any? Of course.
Paranoid men can be ambitious to a fault and deeply loyal to those they commit to. Therefore, they tend to be high performance men within the workforce and inside of their families. Driven. That's an overused word, but it fits the bill here in describing these men. Other than that, their positive attributes are all over the map and therefore individually specific.
That being said, many paranoid men I've had the privilege to work with / for / befriend are plenty intelligent, or at least enough so to be cognizant of their own insecurities.
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So what originates a man's paranoia? Where does the infection (cancer) begin?
I know for some guys, it's an outright inequality in character traits that drives this. These can be physical (too short, too fat, not masculine enough) mental (not intelligent enough) or emotional (overly sensitive). If he believes these negative traits put him at a distinct disadvantage, and those "markers" become truth to him, he might potentially be changed over time - for the worse - and become paranoid.
This is why men pay big bucks to attend self-help seminars with men like Tony Robbins or in the same vein, become Scientologists. Whatever they can do to "de-construct this negative thinking" or somesuch relative to how they perceive themselves.
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What I want to know is are paranoid men actually ever Christians? Is it possible to be a, transformed by the gospel of Jesus Christ, Child of God and yet still be paranoid?
Whilst looking at Scripture, King Saul is the ultimate paranoid loner. And God's hand was upon him (for a time) 'till his paranoia towards others seemed to take hold.
Paranoia, I also believe, may be an outgrowth of depression.
So many unanswered questions here. Sorry about that. God bless those men who struggle with paranoia.
What does paranoia look like?
It's a man's constant belief that others are potentially undermining him and what he considers to be important. The keywords there are "what he considers to be important".
Paranoid men are laser focused on themselves and their ultimate satisfaction via a certain graded standard of performance (their own). Therefore, looking like a failure, stupid, unintelligent is quite difficult for these guys due to how it stirs up those internal feelings of insecurity (temperament). Often, these men will discount large swathes of opportunity relative to relationships, vocational challenge, voluntary positions, etc. all due to their determination to "not fail" (or be perceived as such) - even at the slightest level.
And this puts them in a position of being singular. Me, myself, and I. All alone. Because, in their mind, this is the safest position to be in. And from a rationale point of view, this is quite true.
Sadly, paranoid men who experience rejection by their wives (adultery), job loss (due to their own ineptitude), etc. feel torpedoed. And this is because their worst nightmare has now come true!
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So how to determine if a guy is paranoid?
It's not easy because they tend to hide it from the world. Paranoia is like cancer. It eats the man from the inside out, and he knows it. Hence, he attempts to hide it from everyone.
The best means of picking up on paranoia is to spend regular time with him. This can be as an employer, employee, friend, co-volunteer, even a neighbor (longstanding). But, if you're in a position of authority (either legit or implied) over him, he'll often feverishly hide this part of himself. Again, because it's like cancer. And no one wants to be identified with cancer (because it's a disease that weakens / disables / wastes).
But, there is one identifier that you can look out for, though I see it more as a McGuffin than anything else. And that's seemingly enjoying poor mouthing other men behind their backs. Men who do this are behaving like women - typically - and this points back to the beginning of this post.
That being said, a guy who's into regularly poor mouthing everyone around him isn't necessarily paranoid, but he may be.
I know. It's confusing.
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So, what redeeming qualities are there within these men? Are there any? Of course.
Paranoid men can be ambitious to a fault and deeply loyal to those they commit to. Therefore, they tend to be high performance men within the workforce and inside of their families. Driven. That's an overused word, but it fits the bill here in describing these men. Other than that, their positive attributes are all over the map and therefore individually specific.
That being said, many paranoid men I've had the privilege to work with / for / befriend are plenty intelligent, or at least enough so to be cognizant of their own insecurities.
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So what originates a man's paranoia? Where does the infection (cancer) begin?
I know for some guys, it's an outright inequality in character traits that drives this. These can be physical (too short, too fat, not masculine enough) mental (not intelligent enough) or emotional (overly sensitive). If he believes these negative traits put him at a distinct disadvantage, and those "markers" become truth to him, he might potentially be changed over time - for the worse - and become paranoid.
This is why men pay big bucks to attend self-help seminars with men like Tony Robbins or in the same vein, become Scientologists. Whatever they can do to "de-construct this negative thinking" or somesuch relative to how they perceive themselves.
--------------------------
What I want to know is are paranoid men actually ever Christians? Is it possible to be a, transformed by the gospel of Jesus Christ, Child of God and yet still be paranoid?
Whilst looking at Scripture, King Saul is the ultimate paranoid loner. And God's hand was upon him (for a time) 'till his paranoia towards others seemed to take hold.
Paranoia, I also believe, may be an outgrowth of depression.
So many unanswered questions here. Sorry about that. God bless those men who struggle with paranoia.
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| Paranoia is represented here by the bear. It's no teddy. |
Sunday, April 26, 2020
"I (Provide Security To) Joanna!" (The Pitched TV Husband / Dad)
A few years ago, I took the family to Waco, Texas. My wife and daughters had been a few years prior, and well before that, Angie spent four years there as an undergraduate student at Baylor University back in the early '90s.
I agreed to go in order to see my wife's college town, take in a football game within their new stadium, etc., but for my girls, it was all about celebrating their love for Chip and Joanna Gaines. Therefore, we took in the obligatory Magnolia touristy settings (Silos, restaurant), and Angie picked up a cookbook (which she's never cooked anything out of, yet it sits proudly at the end of our breakfast room table collecting dust).
Overall, we western white people idolize and absolutely crave fame despite the fact that there's only an infinitesimal chance we'll ever see it. To us, it's the ultimate means to fortune and perhaps "changing the world for the better". Therefore, the next best thing is living vicariously through those who have achieved it. And this is where the Chip and Joanna Gaines of each American generation come into play for so many of us.
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New and newish Samson guys know the uniqueness of attending a Samson meeting. They feel the atypical within most every word spoken, and it simply doesn't feel at all natural, safe, or even (for many) very productive. I've heard guys describe it as simply coming together with "a bunch of losers / freaks".
Well, I can tell you based on what I know (key phrase) of Mr. Chip Gaines, he ain't no loser, therefore he certainly will never be a Samson guy.
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Chip Gaines represents the ideal red-blooded American husband / father / businessman. He's white, has perfect teeth, is rich, funny, and absolutely, positively, without a shadow of a doubt in love with his wife, Jo.
Joanna Gaines is the daughter of immigrants. She's the more subdued, less outgoing of the two who's constantly feigning over her husband.
Think of them as the inverse of the Arnazes (Desi & Lucille) from the 1950s. Yet, the "I Love Lucy" show was simply a massively popular television situation comedy featuring two vaudeville actors (along with their two co-stars). "Fixer Upper", on the other hand, attempts to be much more grounded in reality (television) than "I Love Lucy" ever was.
But is it really, or are we as the audience simply being taken, yet again, for a Hollywood ride whilst all the while being measured up to a standard that's not at all grounded in reality?
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As I've written on this blog repeatedly, women (white women especially) crave security in and through their husbands. And this feminine attribute, I profoundly believe, is what the popularity of the Gaines' influential television empire is built on. Therefore, at the epicenter of that is Chip Gaines, or at least the Chip Gaines persona that is solicited to his fans as husband, father, contractor, and hardworking cowboy.
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Not long after the "I Love Lucy" / "Lucy-Desi Comedy Hour" ended its run in the '50s, the Arnazes divorced due to Desi's infidelity / substance abuse. And this split was well documented, blindsiding and shocking the American public. Lucille Ball, like so many divorcees, never fully recovered from this despite her hasty second marriage.
Chip Gaines has maintained repeatedly that his love for his beloved Joanna will endure, and that they'll never split under any circumstances. And by God, it's as if it's been decreed by Moses himself simply because he said it on TV.
Similar to Ms. Ball's emotional fallout to her failed, very public marriage, her Hollywood career also fell apart soon thereafter, and this was due to the fact that what her husband had represented to her (& to the American public) was now seen as a ruse. In other words, he was simply a "loser" just like most every other American husband.
Oh, if only Samson Society had existed back in 1960...we would have welcomed Desi.
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So, why choose to not elevate / idealize TV personality husbands whether they're from the 1950s or today? Who instead, but a true loser, would "invest" in anything but attempting to obtain a marriage, family, bank account, notoriety, and influence similar to Chip Gaines'?
Because we don't know anything more than what is pitched to us through the TV screen, within the books, or through their websites about any of these people. And the key word here is pitched. Therefore, what we do know cannot be, under any circumstance, trusted.
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Below are the economics of being an entertainment celebrity within our western culture. It is not complicated.
How does Chip Gaines make his fortune? The same way Desi Arnaz did. Loyal viewership. (All eyes on me.)
Viewership brings in more ad revenue to networks, which in turn increases the already massive pay of TV stars. Loyal viewership (week after week after week of time wasted) is cultivated by precisely nurturing the pitch week to week, and this is done through pre-scripting and masterful editing. Publicists work diligently behind the scenes 24/7 along with teams of personal assistants to fine tune the illusion in order to sell it again and again (eventually into syndication) as a believable, entertaining narrative.
Women are fairly clear cut when it comes to what they perceive as either secure or insecure. Therefore, relative to TV personalities, the executives have learned how to carry forward, whilst localizing (whether it's 1958 or 2020), that Desi Arnaz image.
So...I'd like to personally circle back to this notion of security and how fundamentally important it is to women.
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+/-10 years ago, my wife was in her late 30s. At the time, we had two daughters, one in first or second grade and another in kindergarten. And that was to be our family since we'd chosen to wait 6 years into our marriage to attempt to get pregnant. All was good. Very good, in fact.
Then Angie accidently became pregnant a third time. And my wife isn't a woman who relishes pregnancy. Quite the opposite. Mainly due to the discomfort and (for her) constant anxiety relative to the health of herself and the baby.
Ever since this accidental third (high risk) pregnancy, she's been suspect of my penis and its ability to get her pregnant. Therefore, intercourse is tainted with that reality. Every. Single. Time. And this is the case despite her now being nearly 50 and experiencing perimenopause. In other words, there isn't any amount of seduction I can perform on her that might circumvent her now insecurity in me and my curs-ed dick.
Therefore, our sex life has changed dramatically. But, it's taught me so much about her (for the better, actually). Angie works full-time as a CPA, and her career is important (to both her and our household income). Plus, rearing children is exhausting due to it being loaded with heady responsibilities that are constant. Therefore, the impact of being outnumbered with three offspring can and has been overwhelming to us (along with every other family who's experienced this reality).
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I'm not a TV personality. Instead, I'm quite the loser / freak with a lot of problems who's invested himself in a ministry called Samson Society. I do not radiate constant secureness when I'm around my wife, nor do I know how to renovate houses (as they do on Fixer Upper). I don't drive a pickup truck or wear cowboy boots. And I'm usually not all smiles all the time - as if I just got laid by my smitten wife (because I likely didn't). Come to think of it, I'm not even sexually attracted to the mainstream American female!
And I'm at peace with all of that.
You, dear reader, should be too. To hell with TV personas like Desi and Chip. Good riddance. They are the cultural bane of Hollywood despite their being consistent big time money-makers who do so much indirect harm to us, all in the name of entertainment.
I'm simply calling it like I see it.
I agreed to go in order to see my wife's college town, take in a football game within their new stadium, etc., but for my girls, it was all about celebrating their love for Chip and Joanna Gaines. Therefore, we took in the obligatory Magnolia touristy settings (Silos, restaurant), and Angie picked up a cookbook (which she's never cooked anything out of, yet it sits proudly at the end of our breakfast room table collecting dust).
Overall, we western white people idolize and absolutely crave fame despite the fact that there's only an infinitesimal chance we'll ever see it. To us, it's the ultimate means to fortune and perhaps "changing the world for the better". Therefore, the next best thing is living vicariously through those who have achieved it. And this is where the Chip and Joanna Gaines of each American generation come into play for so many of us.
--------------------------
New and newish Samson guys know the uniqueness of attending a Samson meeting. They feel the atypical within most every word spoken, and it simply doesn't feel at all natural, safe, or even (for many) very productive. I've heard guys describe it as simply coming together with "a bunch of losers / freaks".
Well, I can tell you based on what I know (key phrase) of Mr. Chip Gaines, he ain't no loser, therefore he certainly will never be a Samson guy.
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Chip Gaines represents the ideal red-blooded American husband / father / businessman. He's white, has perfect teeth, is rich, funny, and absolutely, positively, without a shadow of a doubt in love with his wife, Jo.
Joanna Gaines is the daughter of immigrants. She's the more subdued, less outgoing of the two who's constantly feigning over her husband.
Think of them as the inverse of the Arnazes (Desi & Lucille) from the 1950s. Yet, the "I Love Lucy" show was simply a massively popular television situation comedy featuring two vaudeville actors (along with their two co-stars). "Fixer Upper", on the other hand, attempts to be much more grounded in reality (television) than "I Love Lucy" ever was.
But is it really, or are we as the audience simply being taken, yet again, for a Hollywood ride whilst all the while being measured up to a standard that's not at all grounded in reality?
-------------------------
As I've written on this blog repeatedly, women (white women especially) crave security in and through their husbands. And this feminine attribute, I profoundly believe, is what the popularity of the Gaines' influential television empire is built on. Therefore, at the epicenter of that is Chip Gaines, or at least the Chip Gaines persona that is solicited to his fans as husband, father, contractor, and hardworking cowboy.
-------------------------
Not long after the "I Love Lucy" / "Lucy-Desi Comedy Hour" ended its run in the '50s, the Arnazes divorced due to Desi's infidelity / substance abuse. And this split was well documented, blindsiding and shocking the American public. Lucille Ball, like so many divorcees, never fully recovered from this despite her hasty second marriage.
Chip Gaines has maintained repeatedly that his love for his beloved Joanna will endure, and that they'll never split under any circumstances. And by God, it's as if it's been decreed by Moses himself simply because he said it on TV.
Similar to Ms. Ball's emotional fallout to her failed, very public marriage, her Hollywood career also fell apart soon thereafter, and this was due to the fact that what her husband had represented to her (& to the American public) was now seen as a ruse. In other words, he was simply a "loser" just like most every other American husband.
Oh, if only Samson Society had existed back in 1960...we would have welcomed Desi.
-------------------------
So, why choose to not elevate / idealize TV personality husbands whether they're from the 1950s or today? Who instead, but a true loser, would "invest" in anything but attempting to obtain a marriage, family, bank account, notoriety, and influence similar to Chip Gaines'?
Because we don't know anything more than what is pitched to us through the TV screen, within the books, or through their websites about any of these people. And the key word here is pitched. Therefore, what we do know cannot be, under any circumstance, trusted.
-------------------------
Below are the economics of being an entertainment celebrity within our western culture. It is not complicated.
How does Chip Gaines make his fortune? The same way Desi Arnaz did. Loyal viewership. (All eyes on me.)
Viewership brings in more ad revenue to networks, which in turn increases the already massive pay of TV stars. Loyal viewership (week after week after week of time wasted) is cultivated by precisely nurturing the pitch week to week, and this is done through pre-scripting and masterful editing. Publicists work diligently behind the scenes 24/7 along with teams of personal assistants to fine tune the illusion in order to sell it again and again (eventually into syndication) as a believable, entertaining narrative.
Women are fairly clear cut when it comes to what they perceive as either secure or insecure. Therefore, relative to TV personalities, the executives have learned how to carry forward, whilst localizing (whether it's 1958 or 2020), that Desi Arnaz image.
So...I'd like to personally circle back to this notion of security and how fundamentally important it is to women.
-------------------------
+/-10 years ago, my wife was in her late 30s. At the time, we had two daughters, one in first or second grade and another in kindergarten. And that was to be our family since we'd chosen to wait 6 years into our marriage to attempt to get pregnant. All was good. Very good, in fact.
Then Angie accidently became pregnant a third time. And my wife isn't a woman who relishes pregnancy. Quite the opposite. Mainly due to the discomfort and (for her) constant anxiety relative to the health of herself and the baby.
Ever since this accidental third (high risk) pregnancy, she's been suspect of my penis and its ability to get her pregnant. Therefore, intercourse is tainted with that reality. Every. Single. Time. And this is the case despite her now being nearly 50 and experiencing perimenopause. In other words, there isn't any amount of seduction I can perform on her that might circumvent her now insecurity in me and my curs-ed dick.
Therefore, our sex life has changed dramatically. But, it's taught me so much about her (for the better, actually). Angie works full-time as a CPA, and her career is important (to both her and our household income). Plus, rearing children is exhausting due to it being loaded with heady responsibilities that are constant. Therefore, the impact of being outnumbered with three offspring can and has been overwhelming to us (along with every other family who's experienced this reality).
-------------------------
I'm not a TV personality. Instead, I'm quite the loser / freak with a lot of problems who's invested himself in a ministry called Samson Society. I do not radiate constant secureness when I'm around my wife, nor do I know how to renovate houses (as they do on Fixer Upper). I don't drive a pickup truck or wear cowboy boots. And I'm usually not all smiles all the time - as if I just got laid by my smitten wife (because I likely didn't). Come to think of it, I'm not even sexually attracted to the mainstream American female!
And I'm at peace with all of that.
You, dear reader, should be too. To hell with TV personas like Desi and Chip. Good riddance. They are the cultural bane of Hollywood despite their being consistent big time money-makers who do so much indirect harm to us, all in the name of entertainment.
I'm simply calling it like I see it.
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| The opposite of a Samson Society guy. |
Friday, April 24, 2020
The Samson Society - The "No Bull Briefing" Newsletter - April 2020
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