A Paranoid Man Is The Ultimate Loner (We Welcome Them Into Samson Society)

Paranoia is rooted in mistrust (enacted by a negative event), and mistrust is grounded in insecurity (one's temperament).  Therefore, men who're paranoid, I believe, tend to have more of a feminine bent in regards to their internal wiring (internal security default versus respect default).

What does paranoia look like?

It's a man's constant belief that others are potentially undermining him and what he considers to be important.  The keywords there are "what he considers to be important".

Paranoid men are laser focused on themselves and their ultimate satisfaction via a certain graded standard of performance (their own).  Therefore, looking like a failure, stupid, unintelligent is quite difficult for these guys due to how it stirs up those internal feelings of insecurity (temperament).  Often, these men will discount large swathes of opportunity relative to relationships, vocational challenge, voluntary positions, etc. all due to their determination to "not fail" (or be perceived as such) - even at the slightest level.

And this puts them in a position of being singular.  Me, myself, and I.  All alone.  Because, in their mind, this is the safest position to be in.  And from a rationale point of view, this is quite true.

Sadly, paranoid men who experience rejection by their wives (adultery), job loss (due to their own ineptitude), etc. feel torpedoed.  And this is because their worst nightmare has now come true!

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So how to determine if a guy is paranoid?

It's not easy because they tend to hide it from the world.  Paranoia is like cancer.  It eats the man from the inside out, and he knows it.  Hence, he attempts to hide it from everyone.

The best means of picking up on paranoia is to spend regular time with him.  This can be as an employer, employee, friend, co-volunteer, even a neighbor (longstanding).  But, if you're in a position of authority (either legit or implied) over him, he'll often feverishly hide this part of himself.  Again, because it's like cancer.  And no one wants to be identified with cancer (because it's a disease that weakens / disables / wastes).

But, there is one identifier that you can look out for, though I see it more as a McGuffin than anything else.  And that's seemingly enjoying poor mouthing other men behind their backs.  Men who do this are behaving like women - typically - and this points back to the beginning of this post.

That being said, a guy who's into regularly poor mouthing everyone around him isn't necessarily paranoid, but he may be.

I know.  It's confusing.

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So, what redeeming qualities are there within these men?  Are there any?  Of course.

Paranoid men can be ambitious to a fault and deeply loyal to those they commit to.  Therefore, they tend to be high performance men within the workforce and inside of their families.  Driven.  That's an overused word, but it fits the bill here in describing these men.  Other than that, their positive attributes are all over the map and therefore individually specific.

That being said, many paranoid men I've had the privilege to work with / for / befriend are plenty intelligent, or at least enough so to be cognizant of their own insecurities.

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So what originates a man's paranoia?  Where does the infection (cancer) begin?

I know for some guys, it's an outright inequality in character traits that drives this.  These can be physical (too short, too fat, not masculine enough) mental (not intelligent enough) or emotional (overly sensitive).  If he believes these negative traits put him at a distinct disadvantage, and those "markers" become truth to him, he might potentially be changed over time - for the worse - and become paranoid.

This is why men pay big bucks to attend self-help seminars with men like Tony Robbins or in the same vein, become Scientologists.  Whatever they can do to "de-construct this negative thinking" or somesuch relative to how they perceive themselves.

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What I want to know is are paranoid men actually ever Christians?  Is it possible to be a, transformed by the gospel of Jesus Christ, Child of God and yet still be paranoid? 

Whilst looking at Scripture, King Saul is the ultimate paranoid loner.  And God's hand was upon him (for a time) 'till his paranoia towards others seemed to take hold.

Paranoia, I also believe, may be an outgrowth of depression.

So many unanswered questions here.  Sorry about that.  God bless those men who struggle with paranoia.

Paranoia is represented here by the bear.  It's no teddy.