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Discovery / Narrative, Arousal = Architecture Of Sexuality VS. Longings / Triggers, Fetishes = Mobile Homes Of Lust
"I don't know much about art, but I know what I like." [This is horseshit.]
Architecture, by definition, wouldn't exist were it not for critics. Critics use their fine-tuned, scholarly adjudication skillset and from there, communicate to the masses what and why a building qualifies as architecture. And they do this as an outpouring of their zeal for standout, outstandingly designed buildings. Buildings which seemingly capture volumetric space in a masterful way (architect = master builder).
A worthwhile architectural critic, by definition, is exceedingly knowledgeable of their subject. It's this knowledge that allows their critique to carry so much weight.
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Guys who find themselves within Samson Society typically fall into the category of sexuality aficionados. I would argue many of these men entered into crisis (pre-Samson Society) of some sort due to their individual passion for sex colliding with their (in very simplified terms) longstanding / life-long isolated state (inability to find helpful knowledge / understanding therein).
Religion undoubtedly can play a role in this cataclysm (the majority of Samson guys are Christians). As such, I would argue that this then knowledge / understanding vacuum will occur alongside the false accusation that "No one else within the church is experiencing nor is as interested in sexuality as you are...FrEaK". [This too is horseshit.]
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Porn, phone sex, hook-up & circle jerk roulette sites all provide pitifully unreliable information regarding sex, yet it's devoured by these men. Why? Ease of private accessibility. Too, (if they choose to take this step) transactional sexual relations (strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitution) further their woefully biased / distorted thinking. Why? Ease of private accessibility.
And all of this internalization of such their favorite topic eventually manifests ruts within their minds. Call them fetishes or triggers. They're deep valleys within their grey matter equating to salacious comfort food of the ultra-processed Wal-Mart impulse-buy caliber.
Hence, it's cheap, deadly fare. Would you choose to dine out of a trash heap for each and every meal? It's important to remember that although this is the least healthy means to find caloric sustenance, it's still sustenance.
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There has to be a healthy way for men - who're like us - to gain needed knowledge regarding sexuality in line with their individual discovery / narrative leading towards arousal.
Now, what am I referring to when I say, "men like us"? Go back to what I wrote earlier within this post.
I'm referring to men who're passionate about sex and therefore deliberately ruminate on it. Within the same vein as guys who're similarly passionate about other topics of interest such as cars, hunting, video games and so forth.
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To become an architect, one must be taught via schooling then internship. That, combined with the assumed extensive knowledge relative to building construction, go hand in hand. But first & foremost, the individual must be a built-environment aficionado. Otherwise, there's no zeal to motivate / discipline the man through the maturation process of learning.
It's an arduous process that's not for the faint of heart. Requiring time, dedication and a willingness to develop one's own rudimentary beliefs / narrative (ability to see) whilst embracing the high standards of qualified architectural design.
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Where are plenty of men who've mastered their sexuality / sexual narrative, therefore what exactly should they be doing for the young men within the church / Christian circles who're secret sexual aficionados - perhaps as they too may be?
How do these young sexual aficionados reveal themselves to potential trusted mentors who've clearly mastered their sexuality / sexual narrative?
What exactly does that mentorship look like between this older and younger man? How much of it is executed via example / posture versus specific instruction?
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At our church, besides the youth pastor, there's typically both a male and female youth intern. Think of these co-ed interns as assistant youth pastors. One of our recent (he's since moved away / out of that position) male youth interns took two teenage brothers under his noble wing. These young men came from a less than ideal familial setup, but both of them were respectfully close (to each other) in line with their dedication to our church's youth program. Independent, confident, physically impressive, demure. These were all descriptors perfectly suited to these young men.
Because of these boys' unconventional family setup combined with their undeniable masculine (stoic combined with physical) presence, engaging with them could be intimidating. Particularly considering how fiercely protective they were relative to their out-of-the-ordinary household roots.
But this male youth intern was as equally masculine / physically impressive, and therefore not in the least dissuaded from putting in the effort needed to befriend these young men. In fact, the running joke within the youth group was this intern could easily win the role for the next silver screen version of the renowned X-men, Wolverine (Hugh Jackman's breakout role).
So, what are the odds that one of these brothers is a sex aficionado like you and I are? What are the odds both are, particularly considering the stress placed on them via their aforementioned unconventional familial setup?
I'd say they're pretty good odds.
The most heartfelt development regarding this tale is how this mentorship / big brother role that our church's youth intern bravely embraced ultimately wielded a romance. A romance between (the next) Wolverine and the two brothers' older sister (she's in college).
During our Christmas Eve service, I could see (from the choir loft) Wolverine seated on the end of the pew next to his lovely significant other (the brothers' sister). Then there was mom and dad and finally, the two brothers, on the opposite end.
It made my heart swell.
The notion that this powerfully influential mentor could potentially become these two boys' brother-in-law literally took my breath away. How cool is that?
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Most of us didn't have the experience I've described here. No youth intern (or otherwise) mentor to come alongside us sexuality aficionados. Nevertheless, read on.
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