Most men define themselves completely by providing (a sense of) security to their "tribe", this notion of stability and confidence, and that confidence (or lack thereof) to provide security is confirmed / maturated within young adulthood. If these men (part of the aforementioned most) happen to be Type A control freaks, this identifier to provide security is especially important to their identity as males due to their specific and highly idealized temperament.
So let's consider these men's pasts.
If you put unfortunate, unhealthy, impossibly difficult circumstances within a young man's path that serve to traumatically counter that budding definition of confidence within himself - again, to provide security relative to his "tribe" - then you have emotional issues related to this identification need that can follow him into adulthood.
At least this is my theory.
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And honestly, I'm not so sure this issue can easily be resolved into adulthood when you're dealing with Type A men. These guys also tend to be highly dutiful (to everyone but themselves), therefore their desire to actually do their own necessary recovery work is often pitifully minute. Or, on the other hand, some of these Type A men too can be extraordinarily lazy and lackadaisical, only choosing to act (get off their ass) when it's a situational react. If that makes any sense...
Or, these Type A men can be some combination of the two - both dutiful and lazy all at the same time - just proportioned out categorically depending on their own hierarchical system ("I care deeply about this... / I care nothing for that...")
Therefore, all of the garbage (facsimiles of sexual chemistry and the resultant masculine "hits") I listed on my previous blog entry: strip clubs, telephone sex, prostitutes, Internet porn, dating sites, chat rooms, and on and on, I find...these "fixes" for these emotional issues can come "into play" due to how convenient, secretive, and of course, pleasurably naughty they all are.
And each of these facsimiles absolutely do provide masculine hits that are off the charts whilst being extraordinarily efficient. Which is what they're designed to do again and again thanks to our free enterprise system (most of these services must be purchased).
In closing, Type A men as I've described here, like all men, have a story. It's just that the important parts for them are the really, really difficult memories as well as their subsequent choices that involved a tremendous amount of sin. It's these difficult memories as well as the sinful choices that need to be investigated and clearly, thoroughly, explicitly unpacked. Otherwise, there's no understanding of the why he's broken as he is nor why exactly he's taken the stupid (stupid is a verb) path he's taken to manage his brokenness.
Man, that's a mouthful. Please know that I'm trying my best to be clear here.
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