Describe to many men what they desire more than anything else, from a fleshly standpoint, and the end result of those desires will very often be a masculine "hit" / spike / thrill ride, though they may not be able to articulate this. Whether they're to be found sexually attractive by another human being, execute a precision gameplay, or find themselves rolling their bank account into the seven-figure realm, any and all of these will suffice to bring on those heady, exceedingly masculine feelings for many men.
A quick disclaimer: Not every man experiences this. That's why I said most. I certainly don't. For Rob, my masculine "hit" comes through taking risks. Whether it's within my friendships or family (particularly my children), tied to what I may or may not say (& how I might say it), or what I may choose to or not to take part in (often culturally), these small risks add up to bolster my sense of masculinity.
Many men derail portions of their entire lives due to the never ending pursuit of these confidence building situational masculine feelings. Feelings that they learned early on as boys which very well do assist them in understanding themselves. And that's the entire point of these feelings. They're God-given helpers in reminding a male that he's male. And this is a good thing until it's not.
So why exactly do certain men gravitate towards this? (Fast forward to my theory which I've attempted to flesh out within Part 2).
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The world of men is typically average to below average relative to physical attraction. Most men, once married in particular, pay little if any attention to their physical selves. But, there are a handful whom have the DNA firstly, and the resolve secondly, to take full advantage of said DNA. And of course, people take note of this, and it's been proven that these guys are far more likely to earn more money throughout their lives whilst encountering fewer obstacles along the way. You might call it the George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Zac Efron effect, and it's as American as apple pie.
Our sexualized photographic culture elevates sexually attractive men, furthering the ridiculousness that strong masculine sex appeal makes for a solid (faithful), enduring (provider / security), endearing (compassionate / loving) man - boyfriend, husband.
So what if you're that guy? What if you're capable of turning heads or attracting a lot of sexual attention as you go about your everyday life? And what if you pay heed to it or take note of it once you sense someone has "taken the bait" based on how you've dressed / carried yourself at that particular moment in time?
If you're looking to exploit that masculine "hit", you're typically going to flirt in order to eek out as much of it as you can. And this is where situations tend to lead towards lives getting derailed, trust coming unraveled, lies being told, and stupid (stupid is a verb!) happening in droves.
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For you husbands out there, hopefully you remember experiencing this aforementioned masculine kick when you were dating your wife. Oftentimes, it unfortunately leads to fornication because intercourse is the natural masculine progression of this attraction / flirting experience. But, in certain cases, just because you're a married man doesn't mean you suddenly lose your sex appeal. In fact, there are some individuals who consider others THAT MUCH MORE SEXY if they're married with children.
Guys who crave this masculine kick from arousing both women and men they encounter / relate to can at times find their looks also serving as a two-edged sword. Their wives, in particular, can trophy these men's debonair, and in the end harness their hotness (which seemingly comes naturally) against them. I believe women who choose to marry an Adonis are often blinded into thinking they're especially worthy of such manly finery, and this can in turn cause that much more consternation and outrage when his unfaithfulness is brought into the light.
This is very bad situation for all parties involved, that frankly, I have no idea how to remedy except supernaturally.
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Now, let's talk next about the facsimile of all this sexual chemistry (& subsequent masculine "hits"): Strip clubs, telephone sex, prostitutes, Internet porn, dating sites, chat rooms, and on and on.
This is where things really get ugly relative to finding success in obtaining those masculine highs.
To be continued...
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