Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:

Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.

Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.

Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.

Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 769-567-6195 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.


Tuesday, May 20, 2025

"The No Bull Briefing" - May 2025 Samson Society Newsletter


Sunday, May 18, 2025

Experiencing Matriarchal Disrespect? Consider Sending A Measured Response (& Don't Back Down)

When my oldest daughter was an infant (she's 22 now), I wrote a letter to my mother letting her know how disrespected (by her) I'd felt as a new dad.  There'd been an incident at my parents' abode.  My wife and I had brought my parents first grandchild (my now 22-year-old) over for a visit, and it was during this after church lunch that a statement was made (by my mom, directed at me).  Her off-the-cuff adjudication was way out of line and therefore pissed me off to no end.

I had never experienced disrespect as an adult - to this degree - from my mother (I was 30 years old at the time).  Her words cut like a knife into my heart, especially so knowing they were said amongst the entire fam.

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I vividly remember how terrified I was to confront my mom regarding this.  For I knew her well enough to know that she would refuse to concede, and thereby quickly (& very easily) pull my father into the mix (posturing).  And from what I recall, that did occur.  I heard from him not long after the letter was mailed in an attempt to convince me that I'd stepped way out of line by sending it. 

Whilst looking back, I'm so glad I chose to put my thoughts & feelings in writing to her versus attempting to '"talk it out".  For neither of my parents (back then) were at all experienced listeners (able to listen sans becoming emotionally charged).

As punishment for speaking up / standing my ground, my mother shunned me for 3-4 months.  She refused to look at me or even acknowledge my presence whilst in the same room.  Oftentimes, when we were within close proximity (sitting adjacent to each other in church, etc.), she'd quietly weep.

As this ridiculously juvenile behavior of Her's drug on, I became more and more certain that I'd done the right thing.

Eventually, she apologized (in writing) to me for what she'd said to me months prior.  

From what I recall, she dropped a letter off at the architecture firm I was employed at.  This was a pleasant surprise.  From there, she returned to behaving normally around me.

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There's nothing more important to men than respect, but it's especially important therein when new territory is being charted (life circumstances).  

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Ever since late 2013, I've been working alongside my parents within their small business.  In fact, a few years back, I actually purchased said business from them (they still work most days within our shared office space).  As such, my relationship with my mom has flourished due to the fact that we work really, really well together both respecting each other equally.

Nonetheless, a few weeks back, I once again found myself having to stand up for myself / my family, and yet again, it ultimately had to do with her disrespecting / mistreating me with her words.  But this time, she wasn't unfairly judging / shaming me as a father.  Instead, she was overstepping by sharing intimate details regarding her ongoing tumultuous relationship with her oldest brother (who's my 93-year-old grandmother's primary caregiver).  

As such, this ultimately led to me demanding some physical distance between my uncle and my family (wife / daughters) versus simply continuing forward with the status quo (as if nothing physically threatening had ever happened between him & my mom).    

Disappointedly, my mother (& father) is using the exact same reactionary techniques as she did 22 years ago when I stood my ground then.  It's like déjà vu.    

What's sad to me - primarily - this time around is the fact that these folks are in their early 70s.  As such, time is of essence (precious), taking their ages into consideration.

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Have you heard the adage, "When momma's not happy, nobody's happy?"  It's sort of a cutesy saying 'till you've lived it.    

Wednesday, May 7, 2025

Recommended Reading

"If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants." — Isaac Newton

DA Carson, looking at the history of Israel and the modern Church, once remarked that 'belief' is cyclical... "one generation believes the gospel, the next assumes the gospel, and the following generation denies it..."

If Carson is right [and I think he is], then we are coming out of a spiritual winter [denial] and are on the cusp of a spring awakening [belief].

There is a generation ready to believe. Ready to receive the gospel. Ready to deepen their faith. The question I have is, who will lead them? Who will walk with them? Who will guide them, "toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus..."

"Young men grow up when older men show up."

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Brother, your presence matters. If we are going to reach the next generation of men—men who know Jesus, follow Jesus, and then reproduce themselves—presence is the first and most important step.

Young men do not grow through online lectures. They do not grow through self-discipline, stoic philosophy, or the latest workout and diet fad. Men grow when men older show up, build something with them, listen, and invite them into maturity [as mentors or as fathers].

Anthony Bradley, a co-laborer I highly respect and admire, recently wrote,

It's Time to Rethink Everything. Let me be blunt: the 1950s/1960s youth model—designed in the mid-20th century to entertain teenagers and keep them out of 'grown-up' church—is failing our young men. Your son deserves better. It wasn't built for the current crisis of boys and men. It wasn't built for boys having to navigate a world saturated in social media messaging. It wasn't built for the kind of spiritual formation your sons actually need. Demand better for them. And it certainly wasn't built with covenant theology in mind.

Teenage boys today don't need a 25-year-old 'cool guy' handing out pizza and playing games. They need grown men to coach them about life. They need deep connections with their fathers. They need elders. They need consistent, older, wiser male presence forming them in the way of Christ through real-life engagement—building, eating, working, listening, praying, serving, loving their mothers and sisters well. That's what the data shows. That's what the Bible commands and models. And that's what the church is failing to deliver... Our boys deserve better!

The burden is twofold. First, churches must get serious about training, supporting, and forming fathers. Not just preaching about 'being a good dad,' but cultivating a culture where men are actively shaped into spiritual, intellectual, and emotional leaders at home—especially those who never had fatherhood modeled for them. Every father in the church should know he is not alone and can get help from any of his brothers at any time. He should be surrounded by a community of men committed to his growth and maturity in Christ and as a husband and father.

Second, we need to dismantle every system in the church that treats teenage boys as spiritual outsiders until they 'grow up.' It's utter nonsense. If a boy has been baptized into the covenant community, then the church has made a vow before God to shepherd him—not when he's 18, but now. That's not a program. That's not a nice idea. That's covenantal responsibility. And it doesn't happen in a youth room with beanbags and devotionals. It happens through sustained spiritual formation in the context of intergenerational relationships—where boys are brought into the worship, work, and wisdom of the men around them. High school boys don't belong in children's/youth ministry. They need their teenage years tethered to their fathers and the elders of the church—these men are their lifeline for crossing into adulthood. The data could not be clearer on this.

We have to stop treating boys like a separate category of Christian and then shame them for acting like children. They are not pre-Christians. They are not problems to manage. They are brothers. They are sons of the covenant. They are members of the visible church. And when we isolate them from the full life of the body, when we ignore their need for male formation by their fathers and elder father-figures in the life of the church, we deny what their baptism declares.

If the church wants to respond seriously to the crisis of fatherlessness, the boy crisis, and the breakdown of male development, it begins here: support the fathers, and embed the boys in intergenerational relationships in the life of the church. Create a culture where men see the spiritual formation of the next generation as an ordinary, expected part of Christian maturity. And when you baptize a child, mean it. There must be a clear rite of passage into the adult community—long before high school graduation.

Presence isn't optional. It's covenantal. And it's past time the church acted like it. Boys in the church are being shortchanged—and it's a shame. Parents must start demanding more. Churches need to stop outsourcing boys' formation to people who, according to the data, have minimal long-term impact and focus on the ones who do—ie., their fathers and father-figures in the church. Build the fathers and forge a brotherhood in community—because they're the ones who should bear the lion's share of forming the adolescent brain and soul into adulthood.

Carson is right. Bradley is right. The answer is intergenerational discipleship.

What are we going to do about it?

For the next generation. For the King,