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Hoarding is an extreme form of obsessing over oneself / one's inner thoughts. It's a deep-seated bondage relative to one's psyche that manifests itself via chronic, compulsive consumption (purchase & stockpiling) of goods. Oftentimes, for a hoarder, the cable television channel QVC or the URL, Craigslist / eBay, is on par with Internet porn for a Samson guy.
Hoarding is exploiting one's individual rights (related to consuming) within epidemic proportions. It is being the ultimate PERSONAL advocate to such a degree that no one else's "well-being" is of concern except your own.
Nonetheless...
The greatest gift to the hoarder is the difficulty therein in hiding their problem (especially when the corpse of a loved one is unearthed within the hoarded goods).
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Immediately following our wedding, 26-years ago, Angie and I moved into our first home (an upstairs 2-bedroom apartment in Ridgeland). We ended up leasing that flat for four years, and throughout the majority of that time, a hoarder lived beneath us. I know this because of how apparent it was looking from the outside in.
Though I didn't consider myself a snoop, it was easy getting a clear view inside whilst circumnavigating to the back of our building (in order to empty our cat's litterbox). I vividly recall how shocked I was the first time I glanced into her windows, particularly relative to her kitchen. (Keep in mind that her flat's floor plan was identical to our own.)
Our neighbor's hoarding became so problematic that we (upstairs) began experiencing an ant invasion (they found their way into our staples within our small pantry). Soon thereafter, I approached our downstairs neighbor. With her being single (with one elementary age daughter), I didn't care to rat on her to management. As a result (I'm assuming), the ant problem did subside, yet in no way did her overall living conditions improve (based on my continued indiscriminate / concerned observations).
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Chronic porn use is exploiting one's individual online rights (related to consuming) within epidemic proportions. It is being the ultimate PERSONAL advocate to such a degree that no one else's "well-being" is of concern except your own.
The greatest curse to the chronic porn user is the definitive vacuum by which they exist within.
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My first hope regarding finding support as a same-sex attracted Christian man was via reading online blogs (2007-). These were blogs written by men who looked to be walking the same road I was attempting / had been attempting to navigate. I knew there'd be no formal support available from my church (I'd looked hard) or within the community (here in Mississippi) at large, and that the professional journalism community (religious or secular) certainly wouldn't touch a story like my own with a ten-foot pole.
These blog writings that had been published online were like a breath of fresh air within a vacuum. And many of these men talked too of their struggle with chronic gay porn consumption (which I very much could relate to) now that the Internet was on the scene!
This is why I write here and encourage others to do the same. Consider it an ode to that first gasp of resuscitating oxygen.
My hope is men can find hope before their inward obsessiveness results in the collateral damage that so often is the inevitable. Perhaps this blog (journal) will in some way offer support as those aforementioned ones did for me - all those years ago.
Decency: conformity to the recognized standard of propriety, good taste & modesty, etc.
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