Thoughtlessness Can Equate To Masculinity (Generalization) Can Equate To Sexy, Virulent, Worthwhile, Valuable (Specific men)

For me TODAY, masculinity truly begins to lose its luster when you recognize that for some guys, it personally equates to dickdom licensure.   

We're all hyper self-focused as westerners, but masculinity - in some (repugnant) forms - can give credence to the guy who truly loathes inconvenience and thoughtfulness.  Too, though I'm no proponent of catchy, fashionable catchphrases, there's been a lot said as of late in an attempt to shine a spotlight on white dudes' - by default - "leg up" and how it seems to baptize many men into assholes.  Nonetheless, whether it's culture or majority privilege, this construct of masculinity, in the past, has set the bar quite low relative to "looking out for the best interests of others". 

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I'm convinced too that physical attraction (sex appeal) does plays a role in how tolerant one's posse becomes to one's own masculine assholeness.   I won't cite anyone specifically, but we all can collectively agree to those famous, great-looking men who's debonair served to immunize them from many expectational aspects of relational decency. 

All in all, this is where Rob, as a man whose sexuality is far from straight, has in the past been tempted to make some compromises.  Particularly as a teenager, but also, very early on within my involvement within Samson Society.  And whilst looking back, I believe that allure grew out of my own internal battle with a sense of worthlessness.  For what better feel-good relationship can exist than one which provides affirmation in deference to the default of sissydom? 

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As an aside, what is one constant that keeps culturally celebrated masculinity (as described above) in full swing?

Wives / girlfriends who tolerate it.

Women long for security from their men, first and foremost.  Thoughtless jerks can certainly qualify in this regard, and perhaps even as such, add to the allure.

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In closing, it's far easier jettisoning a jerk (masculine or otherwise) from your life (either full frontal or with discretion) when an alternative friend is in the queue.   

Thoughtful / selfless Samson guys, no matter the level of machismo, are what I'm drawn to today.  In spite of that, I'm embarrassed to say how enamored I once was by something so culturally prescribed.   

Here's to a smooth transition.