Holding The Line As A Silas

Eventually, your friendship with your "Silee" will likely reach inevitable plateaus.  These are wonderful times since there's no climbing involved within the relationship.  And as such, there can be temptation to simply stay put within that horizontal plane.  Yet this runs counter to the theme of this Samson Society friendship.  That being relational accountability.

My first Silas, pre-Samson, and I too reached this platonic plateau and stayed there for around 9 to 10 months.  And you need to know that both of us were serving as "Silases" to each other (neither of us were privy to Samson Society back in 2011).  During this perceived lull, I was experiencing great victory over my struggles with lust, and this was due to what I assumed was also simultaneous ongoing victory within my friend's life.  

But then I started asking those hard questions again, in spite of the fun we were having as close friends, only to find out disappointingly that he wasn't really even pursuing victory any longer over sexual sin.

But, oh the fun we were having!

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And this is where these kind of relationships get hard.  

For you must choose to either keep climbing upward (under the guise of relational accountability) or simply redefine (downgrade / repurpose / augment) the relationship entirely.  And hinged on that decision is the risk involved in continuing to "hold the line" as a Silas, despite the inevitable fatigue, going forward.

No-expectations-attached friendships are so much easier than a Silas / "Silee" relationship.  

And this is because you're much less likely to piss off your friend.  

Why is this an important truth?

Because pissing him off (enough) may just (eventually) sever the friendship, and as such, all that platonic investment will feel as if it's simply going up in smoke (which it really isn't, but Satan will lie to you about that).

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In my opinion, a Silas / "Silee" relationship is far more valuable than a traditional friendship, therefore it's worth the risk to steadfastly hold the line you've been asked to hold.  Please don't settle for the plateau.  Continue upward together, facing the strain and ultimately reaping the rewards - together - of the struggle towards holy living.