Prologue: I'm more interested in adultery here versus fornication because typically the latter is tied to younger men, and younger men are usually overall physically healthier.
Too, adultery (chronic or standalone event), if successful, requires a husband to be deceptive. Deceiving one's spouse (in tandem with going against one's internal moral compass) takes coordination and a willingness to break vows. This cheating will instigate a strong physiological response. I believe, for some adulterers, they're (sickly) more drawn to this response than the sexual trysts themselves.
Fornication typically represents a pattern of sexual sin that's in line with one's "youthful" paganism. In other words, it's not at all out of sync with a bachelor's "culturally expected modus operandi" as a playa.
Adultery, within western culture, (thankfully) is still strongly frowned upon for spouses to participate within. That, I believe, is what could make it all the more deadly (for both the marriage and the adulterer).
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Adultery being rooted in deception / lies relative to how a spouse is spending their "down" / free time cannot be underestimated in terms of its debauchery potency. For not only does it, by definition, involve lies, but it loops in a third individual (by definition innocent) whose life is also being intimately affected.
So what does this do to a man's physical body when adultery, particularly chronic adultery, occurs?
Firstly, there's the obvious. The potential to becoming infected with a sexually transmitted disease.
Besides that, I'm really wanting to hone in on the moral dilemma / fallout / stress (& all the physical ramifications therein) that adultery brings to bear.
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Russian husbands are culturally expected to be adulterous. Mistresses = masculinity within that country alongside being inebriated via vodka (prolonged weekend binges). In fact, I'd argue that it could be one of the latter's primary purposes - to chemically mask over the former's moral heartburn.
Based on my observations, regarding husbands residing on domestic soils, more often than not, they're quick to confess their moral failings (to their wives) in order to:
1. Hopefully acquire immunity to becoming a repeat offender
2. (Within their mind), most efficiently reckon with the overtly burdensome guilt / shame resulting from their actions.
Taking into account an American husband who's constantly repeating his sinful shenanigans, whether it's prostitutes, massage parlors, phone sex, anonymous hook-ups, and so forth, could his lifespan be tremendously shortened as a result?
I believe so.
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When the brain is rutted towards adulterous behavior, the culprit therein is a false identity that's taken hold of the husband. An identity that's somehow feeding off of the man's need relative to identifying himself as worthwhile / valuable.
If a husband's primary desire is respect, wouldn't that desire firstly be rooted in self-respect? What more efficient (read: fast), more masculine way is there to achieve that than via chronic adulterous behavior - especially taking into consideration the seduction dance, acknowledgement of attraction, and ultimate sexual experience (all of which can be successfully pulled off within a matter of hours)?
I realize it sounds animalistic, but the point here is to focus on the false identity.
And it's this false identity (hypocrite) that's so polluting. For when it's in control, it's hijacked the rationale of the husband. Therein lies the high-risk to his health / well-being. For it's grounded in counterintuitively misaligned values which then promulgate a roller coaster day-to-day existence (constantly being on the lookout for illicit sex opportunities).
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I have a divorced & remarried Samson friend who's in his mid-60s and his health is failing. The majority of his life, he was the chronic adulterer, having had illicit sexual trysts with hundreds, if not thousands of women.
The origin of this brain rut, for him, was a sexual relationship he developed (freshman year in college) with the mother of his then girlfriend (who also happened to be the wife of his pastor).
The false identity (that I cited above) was borne out of this reprehensible amoral relationship (which took flight whilst he was a young man). A sexual relationship that continued to thrive for close to a decade. Hence, this false identity became Godzilla-like relative to deeply rutting this man's psyche.
Could the damage done via this - Godzilla-like false identity - be what prematurely ushers him to his grave?
It's important to know too that the pastor's wife had many teenage young men suitors (similar to my friend).
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This question comes down to the following:
Are our bodies negatively impacted via morally despicable behavior? Particularly morally despicable sexual behavior?
The Bible speaks to this. For it cites sexual sin as "sin against the body" which sets it apart. It also mentions our bodies being vessels for the Holy Spirit.
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If my retired Samson friend HAD NOT participated within those illicit adulterous sexual relationships as a result of him refusing the initial advances of his girlfriend's mother (his pastor's wife), would he today be a physical healthier man?
I'm convinced he would be. Yes. Absolutely.
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