Here in Mississippi, there's a Protestant church on almost every corner, and this is especially true in the metro suburbs / small towns.
Why is this the case?
Churches are a dime a dozen here for numerous reasons, but one (typically unspoken) reason that can't be ignored is the infamous church-split.
Churches splitting or splintering can be quite the acrimonious affair. An affair that's often rooted in either theological, pastoral or stylistic dissonance amongst the parishioners.
Many church offshoots (as a result of a split) die within just a few years (if not months), but others find their feet and grow notwithstanding their Zero Hour. Hence, splitting or splintering off happens every so often as parishioners feel so moved to take - what they believe is - necessary risks to get what they want.
All in all, if you're a parishioner who's "Fed Up!" with some aspect of your church home, you're by far not an original trope. And I think it's important to realize this. For there's often a sense of vigilance (versus humility) that's the true source of "fed-upness". As such, the ramifications therein need to be taken holistically into account.
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Going a little deeper relative to this topic, before you decide to walk away from a healthy church body, forgoing your / your family's membership there, consider how your doing so will long-term impact your family.
If you're a father to children between the ages of 8 to 21 (assuming you have parental rights intact), your aforementioned decision MUST TAKE THEIR SPIRITUAL WELL-BEING INTO ACCOUNT if your desire is to see your children / grandchildren grow in stature via Christendom.
That being said, I do realize there are fathers who completely decouple themselves from this "spiritual responsibility" towards their children, but I believe it's important to realize that their approach isn't at all biblical.
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My family's (Bob, Darlene & I) involvement in First Baptist Church Jackson, being pastored then by Dr. Frank Pollard (throughout the '80s), was pivotal. This church taught / nourished both my parents and myself (throughout my "growing up" years), meeting each of us where we were as individuals. No doubt, it was / has been a foundational life-changing experience for each of us.
Bob & Darlene (my parents) were completely spiritually hands-off as parents, and this was because they simply didn't feel comfortable mentoring their only child in that regard. Mostly, that discomfort was rooted in neither of them having the necessary spiritual / biblical foundation to execute, taking into account their youth (both of them were teenagers when I was born).
And this is where our church (First Baptist Church Jackson) mightily stood in the gap, on their behalf.
Whether it was Sunday School, youth ministry, college ministry, worship services, youth choir involvement, youth ministry trips*, youth ensemble involvement / experiences - all of these week after week after week - MADE A DECIDED IMPACT ON ROB.
*I was lassoed in by the gospel during the summer before my 7th grade year in Mount Lebanon, TX.
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Lastly, I know too there are parents out there who encourage their teenagers to be involved within a church's youth ministry (of their choosing) sans their parents. But I would argue that this isn't the same setup as what I experienced.
Most teenagers who attend church regularly are doing so alongside their parents / grandparents / guardians. This is the norm, and teenagers benefit from this normalcy.
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In closing, if you're "Fed Up!", I'd argue that it may be best to swallow hard before you jump ship. The spiritual future of your children / grandchildren / great-grandchildren will no doubt be greatly impacted by your reaction to your feelings about your church.
And let's all remember this truth: Feelings rarely can be trusted (especially when we're in bondage to chronic sin patterns).
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