Teach Your Offspring To Be Good Stewards Of Their Genitalia

Samson Society offers the opportunity to befriend Christian men from all different backgrounds / circumstances.  Years ago, I had the privilege of getting to know one man who shared with me how he (as a now married adult with children of his own) bravely bemoaned to his parents their refusal to educate him (during his childhood) relative to masturbation.  And interestingly enough, his parents were very intelligent, articulate, A+ parent-types (atypical) versus some of your more typical deep South dumbass adults who obliquely equate good parenting with "making sure your kids are in church".

Masturbation is a big part of most children's lives.  Even females.  Therefore, parents are obligated to educate their children regarding what can be a very awkward topic.  Because if they don't, the children are left to their own devices in terms of coming to grips (sorry) with what to do with this extraordinarily pleasurable physical experience.

Two of my three daughters were definitely "chips off the old block", and I discovered this by working to educate them about sex in general terms.  It's truly amazing what small children will divulge within the sanctity of the parent-child relationship.  Obviously, this is what makes them quite vulnerable to predators.  Hence, all the more reason for you as their parent to educate / parent them well.

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I remember all too well confessing to my dad how I'd played "doctor" with my babysitter's oldest daughter on two separate occasions (I believe this confession came when I was around ten years of age).  I described our proceedings through tears before decrying that I'd never do it again under any circumstances.  And this was simply an off the cuff confession on my part.  Years later, whilst in middle school, my father unfortunately squandered what little trust that had matured between us, and he did this by shaming me relative to my attempts to hide my (almost daily) masturbation habit.

But, it could have been worse.  There are plenty of fathers who ramp the shame factor up that much more when it comes to their children's masturbation activities.  Some of the stories I've been privileged to hear are truly jaw dropping in their cruelness.  

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A child's body is representative of a mini-adult.  Therefore, as such, children are developing / learning / exploring, all the while attempting to understand this vessel they've found themselves existing within.

I remember so vividly, for years as a child, twisting, twisting, twisting my Jockey briefs up into a knotted thong beneath my sheets in the dark when I was supposed to be asleep.  I have no idea why I felt I needed to do this.  Nonetheless, my underwear was definitely worse for wear because of it.  

I love chatting with my ten year-old.  Especially whilst walking the nature trail a few miles from our house.  She's so articulate relative to her own child-like comprehension of what sexuality is for her at this stage of life.  What pleases me most about this is her not being afraid to bring it up and discuss it with me.  For there should never be any shame associated with discussing sexuality's many details.  It is by far one of God's greatest gifts.

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I leave you with this today.

A former Samson friend's daughter developed a habitual masturbation habit which became chronic.  Even to the point of her reaching beneath her clothing in public to pacify herself.  

I'd never heard of such behavior, but then I began to think about the risks I took both as a teenager and adult relative to masturbating.  And believe me friend, there were many.

What fuels this stupid behavior?

I believe parents forget just how intoxicating masturbation can be to a child's brain, and as such, prone for distinct habitual patterns to develop rather quickly.  Patterns that often carry forward far into a child's adult life.

Why not, as a parent, seize the opportunity to guide / educate your "chip off the old block" regarding this (almost) universal activity?  Don't risk he or she being left in the dark, or worse, being taken advantage of by friends / other adults whose only motivation is to exploit your child's naivety for themselves.