She Has Not Forgotten the Husband of Her Youth

Angie and I have been married 23 years today.

We started out this Saturday doing what is reserved for husband / wife only within the marriage bed.

Angie runs her own business out of our home.  For those of you who can comprehend what it's like living with a wife who has this much responsibility (on top of being the mother of my three children), there's way too much for her to realistically manage, yet she somehow, through God's grace, keeps all of the various plates spinning.  Oftentimes, she's up well before the sun rises to get a few hours of work in prior to engaging with all of us around 6 AM.  Now that school is out for the summer, she and I are both seeing some workload reprieve, but due to the fact that Angie's business is her responsibility solely, she's still on task most of the time.

What's amazing to me is that she's not forgotten the Rob of 23 years ago.  Though I'm nothing like I was then, she remembers that new husband and how her body responded to his advances.

Sexual relations for middle-aged husbands can routinely be about them "getting off".  I've heard men talk about feeling as if they're essentially masturbating whilst having intercourse.  For Angie and I, there have been some difficult seasons of less than stellar sex, but overall, we've been enriched and subsequently grown closer together as husband / wife.

That's so sad to me, and I do understand that many, many middle-aged wives forget the husbands of their youth (if they ever knew him at all).  From there, they might look to porn or romance novels or simply close off their sexuality completely.  I would argue that at point, she's likely doing more harm than good, unless her husband is physically disabled / has no libido.

I'm blessed that Angie hasn't gone down that path.  Plus, I'm blessed to have this special day to acknowledge this.

The Bible proclaims a wife's body to be the property of her husband's and vice versa.  That initial season of sexual play whilst newlyweds, may its intensity and brevity never be forgotten as she and I continue to work to harken back to who we once were and yet in so many ways still are.