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The Recovery Junkie
It's a fact that there're certain men in Samson Society who're only present to appease a spouse / girlfriend, but too, in some of the most unusual (but perhaps not sooooo unusual) scenarios, they're men here as recovery junkies (& then, of course, there's everyone else). And it's important to know that any of these participation motivators may just imbue some form (if not an awful lot) of recovery within these men which is no doubt a very good thing. In other words, who cares what the motivator ultimately is?
I do.
Years ago, I posted regarding an influential Samson Society newcomer (therapist) who often made (announcing publicly) recovery men's groups analogous to church. Well, this ain't no church, but for those who force it into that distortion, I'm of the opinion they're too sort of a form of recovery junkie (keep in mind that recovery is medicine NOT booze).
I believe recovery junkies (again, who're not therapists supporting said ministry) typically are / were serial fornicaters / adulterers. A lot of these men have filed through numerous sexual partners and have either come out the other side a regretful man or are simply playing everyone a fool. Why is this an important identifier? An outrageously high number of sex partners equates to two possible motivators. Either they're a nymphomaniac which isn't at all likely, or they're rifling through folks like one would any other plebeian conquest (guilt-free). Callousness grows out of the latter. And I find that recovery junkies can be - to one degree or another - as such.
What's almost impossible to do well is spot one of these recovery junkies within Samson Society. And besides, what's to gain by doing so? But, if you're in a recovery ministry long enough, you'll most definitely suspect them. Hence, it's interesting to me to honor their inevitable presence with a few descriptors.
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Perhaps it's due to the quantity / platitudes of illicit behavior that sets these recovery junkies up. Perhaps reaching that plateau literally positions recovery itself as their next "mistress" (I can't take credit for this analogy).
To circle back to what I mentioned earlier, the most tragic aspect of certain (NOT ALL) recovery junkies is how little recovery actually occurs within their individual lives. This being in light of their raw dedication to said recovery ministry (attending meetings, retreats, etc.).
I listened to a portion of a podcast earlier this week that featured what I suspect was some version of a recovery junkie. In the end, it was his wife who seemingly challenged her husband (twice married to her) therein, and from there, she left (again). Taking their unique tale into account (that's all one-sided hearsay via said podcast), perhaps they were both - at one time - recovery junkies (who were also making $$$ as a result).
To go back to the church analogy, I can tell you - for a fact - that church pews typically aren't being filled by divorcees. And the reason for that is because those of us who've never been divorced don't want them there. This quagmire can set up recovery to become far more to these folks than it was ever meant to be.
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There's "fun" to be had in Samson Society. That's for sure, but if you're not of the opinion that said involvement within this ministry doesn't ultimately qualify you as a P-E-R-V-E-R-T (with all manner of gravity attached to that word), you may just be moving towards or are a full-blown recovery junkie.
In closing, what's perhaps a little bit dangerous about these recovery junkies is how influential they potentially can be. It's important to remember that people are sheep and sheep are low intelligence and very easy influenced. In line with that is how often sheep look for guidance amongst those who're passionate, compelling (even if their passioned / compelled regarding a distortion) & dedicated.
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I'll leave you with some bullet points to consider whilst moving through this ministry, in light of you too inevitably rubbing shoulders with some recovery junkies.
- Over time, illicit behavior definitely becomes easier to admit to (story). The more you spill your guts, the less messy it seems. But, when Samson guys hint at a certain slyness to their past travails, know this: Recovery junkies aren't 100% in recovery for recovery itself. As such, the gravitas of one's past sin doesn't necessarily ring true with them (as one might expect).
- Many recovery junkies make no effort to disguise their draw towards the spotlight (of which thankfully there're few within Samson Society), and yes, some recovery junkies will abandon Samson Society fairly quickly because there're so few means to be the center of attention / recognized.
- Recovery junkies are quick to leave the "chaff" behind in disgust. What I'm insinuating here is they're loathed to come alongside "the least of these" (mentally ill, minority, overall ugly ducklings) who just happen to be Samson brothers.
- Many recovery junkies rarely shut up. For these, talking incessantly is their modus operandi, for they love to hear themselves twaddle.
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