Let me address the first question.
There's a difference in being critical and being derogatory. Derogatory comments / critiques aren't respectful of the absent (or not) individual, therefore they're not welcome regarding anyone else but oneself (if you feel so moved).
Strictest confidence brings about safety relative to any subject matter one would like to introduce within a Samson Society meeting, therefore bring it on. So long as it's not derogatory.
One rule Angie and I have abided by as a married couple is our refusal to speak negatively about each other to anyone besides each other...under any circumstances. Since we've stuck to this for close to 25 years, it's almost impossible to talk about her at all in any sort of negative light. Even within a Samson Society meeting. Considering that, we do not shy away from being critical of each other when deemed necessary.
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Question Two.
I've only had intercourse with Angie a few times in 2020, and only once after May 29 (post-stroke).
Vaginal intercourse is the ultimate expression of complementarian marriage. In particular, the yielding of the wife relative to penetration by the husband.
I personally know men who've been married for longer than I have, and who've only had vaginal intercourse with their wives two or three times over the decades past. And these two individuals (within that marriage) are perfectly healthy, physically attractive human beings. They just choose to not have any sexual intimacy. Ever.
Hence, as you can imagine, the desire for sexual intimacy wreaks havoc within this icy arrangement, and from there, the marriage becomes nothing more than a roommate situation. Progressively though, couples who choose to allow this amount of massive abstinence to occur within their marriages can't help but grow bitter and resentful of each other (as well as themselves). For they know that marriage is marriage is marriage due to the implied regular, natural sexual intimacy involved. It would be like owning a beautiful manual transmission convertible sports car but having to leave it forever garaged.
Meeting couples like this has been eye opening to Rob relative to the fundamental importance of regular hot sex in the marriage bed.
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Question Three.
Sexual intimacy isn't discussed by persons of respect / authority to teenagers. It simply isn't. Ever. Never. Never.
Therefore, teenagers are left to cope with puberty amongst all the relational high school / collegiate madness that comes with it, and most of them end up in bed as a default. And this is not surprising.
Vaginal intercourse is perfectly pleasurable and absolutely desirable. For men, it is truly an effective means for experiencing an emotional / physical release that's unlike any other experience he'll ever have. For ladies, it's that awesome sense of security that's baked into allowing a man into themselves. Security which says to them, "I'm safe and secure within the arms of this man. His masculinity is what I desire first and foremost during this moment of connection. He will protect and take care of me."
Every adult somehow navigated through puberty themselves, and most did so as every generation behind did. It happened on their own with little to no help from anyone else. Therefore, there's little, if any, desire to "give back" or "return the favor" to the next generation since there's no favor to return.
It's a bad situation that's ripe for narratives being put into play early on from which dictate individuals' lives far into the future. And within most of those narratives is shame and regret, confusion and discord. Sometimes even assault, sexual abuse, and rape. All of which are only there to isolate us from God's love and concern, forgiveness, and clear direction relative to his plan for our sexual selves.
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