Laying Together = Praying Together

Husbands tend to be the seducers.  That's why it's so critical for boyfriends to keep their hands off whilst dating.  We have a knack for urging a woman to round the bases with us due to how we're wired as the aggressors.  Plus, virgin women's bodies are VERY alluring to us.  Of course, much about them (hips, breasts, back) is soft and curvaceous which is the complete opposite to how we men are built.

The same seduction concept applies relative to leading a wife spirituality, in particular as it relates to the spiritual discipline of prayer.

Oftentimes, frequency of intercourse lessens when the husband determines another means to "say Amen with his junk".  Too, Internet pornography can become a slippery slope in that regard.  Add to that the reality that wives often work outside the home, become mothers.  Hence, despite their having less energy to begin with, they're often saddled with many more responsibilities than their husbands.  All of this creates a perfect storm for sexual / spiritual neglect.

Praying together should occur with the same frequency as intercourse.  Not necessarily within the same setting but equally as frequent.  And yes, over time, both are susceptible to being scheduled out of most anyone's marriage.

Why should prayer be exercised with the same frequency as intercourse within marriage?

They're the same act in many regards in terms of the level of vulnerability, concentration / intentional one on one time together needed.  Therefore, both acts celebrate marriage - husband + wife.

When you're married, having intercourse with someone other than your spouse is forbidden.  Now, you might pray with someone of the same sex (friend), but it would for sure be out of bounds to pray with someone of the opposite sex.  Awk-ward.

Based on my very unscientific research, most husbands abhor praying with their wives, but love the idea of performing oral sex on her any day of the week (unless she's menstruating, of course) either as part of foreplay to intercourse or to simply provide her with an oral induced orgasm as he observes her body from such a sanctimonious angle.  The notion of said husband being allowed between his wife's legs, that symbolism of submission and so forth absolutely resonates with his masculinity!

As Christian men, there's something wrong with this picture.  To pray with your wife should be no less captivating than performing cunnilingus.

Keep this in mind:  At some point in the future, if you're wife's health falters, and her ability to continue forward with the sexual narrative you two have established over the course of your marriage suffers, there may very well be no sexual recourse for you going forward unless you choose to abandon her.  And this essentially will serve as a massive breach of your marriage vows.  Remember "To Death Do Us Part."?

Why not invest with similar abandon in praying together now, just in case your libido flies out the window next month?

Like sexual activity, praying together can happen spur of the moment or be calendared.  Your choice.  And also like sexual activity, it can be quick or drawn out.  Too, there are numerous positions of prayer that can be explored.  Think of it as motionless Kama Sutra.

Husbands, here is your assignment to get this kick started:

1.  Both you and your wife sit down on the loveseat / couch together.
2.5.  Both of you naked.  (Literally in your birthday suits.)
3.  Hold hands.
3.5.  Close your eyes.  (This is important.)
4.  Each of you ask the other - "How can I pray for you?"
5.  Husband pray.  Wife pray.  (Or vice versa.)
6.  From there, let the Spirit move you.

Always remember:  Laying Together = Praying Together.  They're equal in what they symbolize / accomplish, therefore participate in both with equal abandon.

Prayer is just as intense, just as appropriate, just as honoring of what your marriage represents within God's eyes as a powerful lay.

My hope is that you get praid tonight!