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If you have the privilege of being a husband to a wife, her role in your life will no doubt either promote or work against interdependence.  A complementarian view of marriage is what I'm basing my thoughts on here with interdependence being the end goal.

If a man is drawn towards being involved in an authentic community like Samson Society, he must have a wife who's in agreement with this.  If her opinion of Samson Society ever wavers, that's going to present a problem.

Involvement in Samson Society is going to provoke change within the husband via the power of the Holy Spirit.  It's also going to force the man to face parts of himself that he'd rather not.  Undoubtedly, there'll be no way for him to do this without taking his relationship with his wife into account at present, her role in his life, their collective story, etc.

She's going to sense this provocation and from there, going to be forced to do something with it, and that doing will likely be in line with how she's operated within her husband's life in the past.

Old habits die hard.  Whether they're good or bad.

This can get especially complicated when the man's wife is not within any sort of healthy Christian community herself.  Hence, the marriage is now lopsided with one party heavily influenced by outsiders and the work they're attempting to do via the Holy Spirit's leading.

One thing I attempt to do with many of the men whom darken the door of the Lakeside Pres Samson Society is soon thereafter invite both he (if he's a husband) and his wife to our home for dinner.  I find that this can serve her well relative to hearing our story (mine & Angie's) firsthand and having an opportunity to ask any questions of us in real time.

Ultimately, our wives play an enormous role in our recovery, and yes, there are times when her lack of buy in of Samson Society should most definitively trump her husband's.  Husbands need wives to look with them at heady decisions like committing to a men's ministry such as Samson Society.

Thanks be to God for our wives!