Weekly meetings available to you are as follows:

Tuesday at 6:30 PM, Truitt Baptist Church - Pearl. Call Matt Flint at (601) 260-8518 or email him at matthewflint.makes@gmail.com.

Wednesday at 6:00 PM, First Baptist Church Jackson - Summit Counseling Suite - 431 North State St. Jackson. Call Don Waller at 601-946-1290 or email him at don@wallerbros.com.

Monday at 6:30 PM , Vertical Church - 521 Gluckstadt Road Madison, MS 39110. Mr. Roane Hunter, facilitator, LifeWorks Counseling.

Wednesday at 7:00 PM, Crossgates Baptist Church. Brandon Reach out to Matthew Lehman at (601)-214-4077 for further info.

Sunday night at 6:00 PM, Grace Crossing Baptist Church - 598 Yandell Rd. Canton. Call Joe McCalman at 601-201-5608 or email him at cookandnoonie@gmail.com.


Tuesday, September 27, 2022

"The No Bull Briefing" - September 2022

 

Samson Gets Its First House!

In its mission to support the health and growth of the Samson Society, the nonprofit organization Samson House has long dreamed of setting up homes where members who are temporarily separated from their families can support each other through early recovery. The first step in that effort has finally been reached with the purchase of a former group home in Tennessee.
Tentatively named The Harbor, the historic 6-bedroom, 3-1/2 bath home is located on a two-acre lot just one block from Main Street (and two blocks from Nate and Allie Larkin) in Mt. Pleasant. The dream is to develop a multi-use facility on the property: a center for weekend retreats and intensives as well as a communal living space for a limited number of men in early recovery. 

Samson House Publishing Call for Submittals

We are in the process of finalizing the steps necessary to launch Samson House Publishing (SHP) by this Thanksgiving!
Do you have a passion for writing short stories, poems, devotionals, or recovery-focused non-fiction? If so, we would love to partner with you in getting those works published.
Guidelines for submission are as follows:
  • The subject matter needs to be at least tangentially related to recovery
  • Brief synopsis covering your main idea, supporting material, target audience, and reason for writing
  • Outline of content (chapters)
  • One complete chapter
  • A brief author bio
  • Have someone other than yourself proofread it
  • Proposals will not be returned
If accepted, SHP will contact you regarding next steps.
Books will be published either bound or electronically in accordance with author's agreement. Articles, short stories, poetry, and other creative writing will be published in a periodic Samson Society Journal.
Our hope is to stir creativity within the Samson community and serve the broader recovery world with quality works and opportunity.
Email questions and submittals to Tom Moucka.

Get Your Spot Before We Sell Out!

Spots are filling fast, but we don't want you to miss out on this opportunity to join us in November for the national retreat!
We have opened up more lodging spots in our vintage bunkhouse, lodge bunk room, and off-site semi-private rooms to help accommodate demand.
Grab your bed before it's gone!
All those who attend this retreat will be the first to hear abou tthe 2023 Samson Summit, featuring a prominent speakers that we can't wait to share with you! You will also receive the opportunity to reserve your spot at the Summit at an early bird rate only availabe at Eva.
REGISTER

Samson's First Annual Serve Day

Calling all handymen and not-so-handy men to stay an extra day after the national retreat to participate in our first annual Samson Serve Day!
A few improvements to the Harbor are needed before the building can welcome its first guests, including interior painting, a bathroom renovation, installation of mini-split AC units, and reconfiguration of the kitchen.
Have room in your schedule to stay an extra half-day? Possess skills, tools, muscle, or a positive attitude? Keep an eye out for a future email with project needs and a link to sign up to help.
All volunteers will be able to stay or camp on property Sunday night, but please recognize the house has no furniture.

Virtual Workshop Opportunity

In order to experience healing from past wounds - as well as grow and mature into who you were created to be - you have to understand your story.
You may have tried many things to find healing - books, conferences, prayer, even therapy - but there's still something missing.
What if you engaged your story? What if understanding your past experiences in life - particularly in your family of origin - could help you make sense of why you think, feel, and act the way you do in the present?
There is a connection between the past and the present. The good news is that it is possible to make sense of your present life by understanding your past story.
By the end of this workshop, you will:
  • understand why exploring your story is essential for healing and growth
  • make linkages between your present life and yoyur past experiences in your family of origin
  • actually do work on your story (during the workshop you will complete two exercises designed to help you make sense of your story).
This workshop, featuring Adam Young and Cathy Loerzel, will occur via Zoom on Saturday, November 19, 2022.
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The Annoying Gap in the Floor

By Jamie

Sometimes God uses a gap in your kitchen floor to show how blessed we are.
To understand this story fully I have to take you back to the beginning. No…not that beginning, just the beginning of this story. Although "the beginning" does apply to every story…but I'll leave that for another day.
Enough digression…
In 2016, our family was impacted by one of, if not, the largest disaster in Canadian history. My family and over 80,000 of my neighbours and friends were evacuated from our homes by a massive wildfire (nicknamed The Beast) that threatened our city in northern Alberta.  
The Beast consumed over 5,000 structures and caused many other damages throughout the region. One of those structures was our house that we had only lived in for about 5 years. It took almost 5 years to rebuild our home (that's a whole other story that's probably long enough to be a book!) After many adventures along the way and a long journey to return to our rebuilt house our current story picks up.
Every morning, I wake up in my brand new home and go downstairs to start my routine. I enter the kitchen for coffee and I am often disappointed with the gap in my laminate flooring that seems to be getting wider and wider each day. I'm expecting one day to come downstairs and see a sign erected that claims this site the official "Canadian Grand Canyon!” 
“This is a brand new home and this shouldn't happen," I think to myself. The repair guy has come twice to fix this issue and each time I think the gap becomes more and more obvious and resilient.
The question I'm asking today is, "Why do I focus on the gap each morning and not all the blessings that led to being able to have a gap in my kitchen floor to begin with?"
Everyone has little things that bug them about their living quarters like water pressure, that one piece of baseboard that just won't stay down, lights in locations that don't make sense…the list could be endless. The bottom line for me is when something annoys me I take stock of it now. Why is it annoying? What's the root cause for my frustration? Is there something I can do to fix or change it? If yes, do it and count my blessings, but if not maybe try this. 
The next time something annoys, frustrates or aggravates me, discover why it does. What is the root of the problem or why does it make me feel like that? Our frustrations can either fuel negative thoughts or fuel our gratitude….we get to choose which tank we fill up.
I think I'm going to find a creative way to fill the gap in my floor as a reminder that we all have broken things and gaps in our lives. What we allow to fill those gaps defines us in ways we cannot even imagine and that is a blessed life if you ask me.
Jamie - Co-host of Tuesday night's Forge Brotherhood meeting

August 2022 Meeting Host & Sub Winner

Thank you Scott Tomlin for hosting the Samson Watty virtual meetings! We would like to give you a 25% discount off one item in the Samson merch store as a thank you for donating your time and talents! Please check your email inbox for your discount code.
Each month we will draw one name, so be sure to complete the host form online every time you host or sub a meeting to be entered in to the drawing. You receive one entry for each time you host or sub during the month.

Regional Retreat Opportunities

Planning a regional Samson retreat? Let us know at samsonhouseoffice@gmail.com or drop it on the #upcoming_event channel on Slack so we can help you spread the word!

Monthly Resource Corner

Each month, Samson Society will promote a resource that you may find helpful on your journey. Feel free to share any podcast episodes, blog posts, books, or documentaries that you find enlightening! 
The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology.
Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse.
Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

Membership Benefits of Samson Society

Did you know that as a member of Samson Society, you have FREE access to:
  • Nearly 600 meetings each month, offered both virtually or in-person
  • Community and connection through Slack, which boasts currently almost 2300 members
  • First access to Samson events, such as the annual retreat, with early-bird discounts
  • Samson Swag Store that has items for you, your Silas, or even your partner!
  • Virtual Meeting Host training (stay tuned for information about our special training happening in January!)
And access to the following at a minimal cost:
  • Patreon account with recordings of past presentations and workshops from our annual retreat
  • Special Samson-only member events such as intensives, regional retreats, or story workshops
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"Looking For The Person That's Looking For Me..." - JR Everhart

I heard this (title of this post) on a podcast today, and I almost started crying.  It hit such a nerve with me.  I’ve felt so alone most of my life.  Even when married, I never really felt like my spouse was looking for me as their husband.  Perhaps they were looking for what I could give them, but definitely not the person I truly was - under all my dysfunction, hurt, and pain.  The podcast talked about how we all feel this way.  Looking for someone that will love us and put up with us.  Willing to travel into the pits of our hurt and pain and support us and love us toward our next higher level of growth and good.  I’ve never had that, and when the guy on the podcast spoke these words, it hit me like a ton of bricks, revealing an emptiness in me that I immediately felt pity for.  I was sad for myself, and that I’ve never truly experienced this ideal.  Hearing all of this opened a wound I didn’t even know existed. 

As I considered this further, God showed me how this desire is far deeper than my romantic life.  My parents chose to not soldier on for me in my weakness or defend me in my times of need.  They were just punching the time clock of life, trying to push through us last two kids of twelve they had between three marriages.  To say our family was dysfunctional was laughable.  Normal, middle-class families were dysfunctional.  We lived well below the poverty line, and our home was toxic and full of layers of decay.  My mom was trapped in a relationship with a man (my father) who was a textbook narcissist.  He was controlling and never satisfied with anyone's performance.  He was also very bitter.  And we defined ourselves as a "Christian Family".  Lol.  My father had a great awakening in his senior years, and we made peace which allowed us to enjoy some good years together.  But my mom was far too damaged and addicted to Valium to really be there for anyone.  She was constantly sick and just wanted to be left alone.  We had some moments of joy here and there, but most of the time she just sat and gossiped about anyone that threatened her world.  She was paralyzed by fear and anxiety and never really knew any freedom in her life.  When she died of cancer, I could only feel deep levels of sadness for her because she took all that junk to her grave, never once finding freedom from her guilt and shame. 
All this facilitated me becoming an adult child that never believed anyone ever really loved him.  I lived most of my adult life searching for something I couldn’t fully comprehend.  Decades of wasted years ensued with me trying to find some form of resolution.  Yes, there were seasons of joy, but they were few and far between.  As such, I was stuck in a cyclical dysfunction.  Time after time I chose the wrong women.  Women that felt familiar to my toxic childhood.  It’s absolute insanity at its best.  Even now after a decade of recovery, to my credit, I still wonder if I’ll get it right this time around.  Time will tell.  At this point, I’m mostly isolated in my life and slowly getting comfortable with it. 
I do see the principles of this idea of - looking for people who are looking for me - playing out in my counseling ministry.  I think that’s why giving it away to the newcomers is so important and fulfilling in our recovery.  “You can’t keep it and still grow…” is a recovery phase I recently heard.  Giving it away has always made me feel better and connected to the brotherhood of recovery.  Especially sex addiction recovery, which is so "hush hush" in so many Christian circles.  I desire to connect with people who need what I know to fulfill the ideas of validation in my emotional brain.  Helping others brings about purpose and satisfaction to my world of doubt and feared calamity.  Here recently, I have found myself walking away from conversations that I knew God was using to help someone along.  This resulted in me feeling as if I was enough, even if the dialogue lasted only for a few minutes, or hours.  I believe this is supported by James 5:16:
 
“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed…”| NLT

There is great self-healing in helping others.  Because we all need to pay it forward for our own healing and growth.  It’s God's great process of building his kingdom.

Recommended Reading

The Search for Manly Men of God | Desiring God